To not make someone godparent for this reason

[Mummyof287]

So DD1 had three of my closest (at the time) friends as godmothers- one of whom is my best friend of 30 years (L) and the others (H & A) whom I had known for several years and I am also godparent to one each of their children.

Now 5 years on we are getting baby DD2 christened soon.I asked L to be her godmother again ages ago.I have also asked my close friend E, who I've known since I was 10 and will make a lovely godmother.

I am in a predicament with the 3rd godmother.....I would love to have H again as we get on so well, she has always made so much effort with DD1, and our little girls all have a lovely friendship.I have no doubt she will be a close lifelong friend.

But the only thing is, that would mean that having L and H again, but not A (whom used to be very involved and dedicated with DD, but we don't see her as much now...still friends but i do feel we are quite different, and have grown apart somewhat the last couple of years)

DH says its not a reason not to ask H...so AIBU and unfair not to ask H just incase i upset A? (Who will likely be at the christening) Or shall I just stick at 2/ask someone else to be 3rd godmother to save hurting A's feelings?

Help please- need to make a decision ASAP! X

I thought the 'norm' for godparents was 2 same sex and 1 opposite sex. (or 4&2).

Assuming H&A aren’t a couple, then I don’t see that there’s a problem. It’s nice for babies to have different godparents anyway.

I thought you had 2 same sex god parents and one opposite

It's the norm here to have one godmother and one godfather and every sibling would have different ones. It's fairer I think esp if they buy presents etc

I'm not sure that you can have the same godparent for siblings OP. The reason I say this is that my friend had triplets a good few years ago and she told me that she couldn't have the same godparents for all three of them and had to pick 3 lots of godparents. I think this was CoE. I remember thinking at the time it sounded daft. Maybe someone will shed some light on it as I'm happy to be corrected...

My children have the same godparents. Infact that's a good idea as they are helping bring your children up.
Traditionally it was two of the same sex as the child and one opposite.
But you can have as many as you like. My middle child has 9!!! The royal family have loads of godparents!

C of E and all our kids have same godparents as we chose relatives who are a couple as they will always be in out lives

You can have as many as you like. My DS has 4 (2 men and 2 women friends ). Royals seem to have about 6.

Thanks- not debating numbers, as same church and vicar and we had 6 before, just worried about whether having H again and not A is unkind to A or whether i should just not worry about that.

I won't be having A as really wanted E this time, so it's just a matter of whether I go with H, or not x

I would go with your 3 choices - don't just add A because you had them last time - obviously she may be upset but it's your choice who to have