So...on holiday at the moment and MIL is staying in her apartment on the same complex. We chose to come here as haven't been here for 4 years, we all like coming to this area and the complex is really good for kids. My MIL wouldn't ordinarily come this time of year as its too hot and busy but she wanted to spend time with the kids (and her son!). But OMG she is driving me nuts. For context, I work full time in a high pressure, stressful job, and have limited time off (as most of us do) so we are here for 2 weeks. My MIL (and late FIL) were self employed so used to come here for weeks on end and my SIL is a SAHM with a well paid OH so they used to come for the whole summer (and stay in my MIL flat for free...we could but it isn't air conditioned and is unbearable, we've offered to pay to put it in and have it in a very unobtrusive area so you couldn't even notice it but she refuses to let us, even though it means we end up paying twice as much to stay somewhere else round the corner, but that's a whole other AIBU!). We are staying self catering so we can have a leisurely breakfast, I make a simple lunch of picky bits and salad, and then we go out for dinner every night.
Anyway, my MIL has refused to come for dinner with us for the last few nights, the first reason was because the kids were messing around and I got annoyed (who doesn't) so she didn't want to come as I seemed upset. I mean, an extra pair of hands or someone to entertain the kids would have been more useful than staying in and sulking (BTW, I didn't get annoyed at her, just told the kids off as a parent usually does but she is a total narcissist and everything has to be about her so...). Then she suggested we should spend a few nights in and I can make dinner. I told her no way, I like to get out and relax in the evening. The latest one is she doesn't want to come out as she doesn't think we should be spending money eating out every night. She is getting right up my nose. I work ridiculously hard all year, AIBU to want be able to enjoy my two weeks in the sun without being judged for eating out and spending the money I've earned (I'm the major breadwinner BTW, which she is fully aware of). I've told my OH there is literally no point her being out here if she doesn't even socialise with us and her grandkids and he agrees but he doesn't push it as he has major inferiority issues from her as it is. So, AIBU letting her get to me??