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I just built a wardobe*

79 replies

Skethylita · 25/07/2022 16:23

And I am unreasonably proud.

Why? Because the wardrobe said it needed to be built by two people and I did it by myself.

In a house my ex said I'd never be able to afford by myself that I had zero help in paying for.

That I bought with a mortgage people told me I'd never get as a single mum of two.

With money from a job my mother told me I'd never stick at for being too sensitive because she'd make me cry all the time as a child.

That I got in a country people told me I'd never succeed in living in.

With a citizenship this country made incredibly hard to get.

For two children people told me I'd never be able to support by myself after getting pregnant and then left by my ex while I was a student in the middle of my degree.

I rebuilt my life from scratch, without family support, several times over due to too many shitty experiences with men. I live in a house in a shitty area with a few dodgy-looking neighbours who are still far more polite and respectful than too many of the neighbours I had in too many middle class areas, having moved house too many times due to too many shitty landlords. Still, every house - rented out furnished or unfurnished - had a wardrobe of some description.

So when I bought this IKEA wardrobe and the first page of the instructions said I needed two people to build it I thought fuck it, I'll figure it out myself. Like too many times before. I finished about half an hour ago and I am the proudest I've ever been.

So I guess I am not being unreasonable. But if I told any of my RL friends just how fucking proud I am feeling because I built a Swedish wardrobe from instructions they wouldn't understand. So I do it here. Now congratulate me already 😁

OP posts:
RogersOrganismicProcess · 25/07/2022 17:30

You are amazing, a true inspiration. I am sure your kids will look back at everything you have achieved for them and yourself and feel immensely proud. I don’t even know you and feel chuffed for you!

User354354 · 25/07/2022 17:35

You are amazing. For everything - not just the wardrobe 😂

You are setting a great example to your children.

TheFormidableMrsC · 25/07/2022 17:36

What a fabulous post. You absolute Queen! I wish you nothing but loveliness forever ☺️

TheWeeDonkey · 25/07/2022 17:41

👑

Rainbowshit · 25/07/2022 17:44

I have a tear in my eye reading your post. Well done you. You have every right to be proud. I'm proud of you and I don't know you.

Skethylita · 25/07/2022 18:47

Fairislefandango · 25/07/2022 17:21

I think you should put some kind of commemorative plaque or inscription on your wardrobe, even if it's on the inside of the door where only you will see it Grin

I thought of getting a mini wardrobe tattooed on me somewhere but your idea is ace! I will get a mini plaque engraved with the words "Remember the wardrobe". Thanks!

OP posts:
Trainfromredhill · 25/07/2022 18:49

You are an awesome mum and woman. You rock. Xx

ManicDreamPixie · 26/07/2022 07:36

OP, you have made my day. I’ve just pinned a note to my notice board. Remember the wardrobe!

dudsville · 26/07/2022 07:41

Congratulations! Amazing, what a wonderful read, and the idea of a wardrobe tattoo really made me smile!

Namechanger1002 · 26/07/2022 07:42

‘I am woman, hear me roar’

Fucking amazing OP!

I have done similar but always play down what I have achieved or make a joke out of it. I was wrong, I should own my achievements 😀

Thefruitbatdancer · 26/07/2022 07:46

What a woman and a marvellous example to your children. If you can build an IKEA wardrobe by yourself, then you can handle anything life throws at you.

Zoeslatesttrope · 26/07/2022 07:56

This is wonderful. Congratulations!

comfortablyfrumpy · 26/07/2022 07:56

What an amazing example you are setting to your children.
I like the idea of a secret plaque!

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 26/07/2022 08:00

I love this! And all of your achievements. In fact it's brought a tear to my eye as I have faced not the same but similar obstacles. Your want to post somewhere a tad more anonymous also got me. People in your everyday life don't get how much these things mean. (And I don't mean the wardrobe bjt well done for that too. I hear you)

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 26/07/2022 08:02

@Namechanger1002

Me too. Why do we do this? I loved this post and didn't for one second think it was anything other than brilliant.

Etinoxaurus · 26/07/2022 08:03

Wonderful. All of it! Enjoy your symbolic wardrobe.
Flowers

FinallyHere · 26/07/2022 08:05

Congratulations.

Well done and all the very best. You have absolutely got this.

Namechanger1002 · 26/07/2022 08:20

lemonsaretheonlyfruit · 26/07/2022 08:02

@Namechanger1002

Me too. Why do we do this? I loved this post and didn't for one second think it was anything other than brilliant.

Because women are raised to be modest about their achievements and to not emasculate men and make men feel inferior (however subconscious those habits are)
How many men do you think go onto a chat site and make a post like the OPs?
OP you are fabulous and an inspiration for every step you were told you couldn’t do it and you did it anyway.
I am on my way to work and your post has given me the best start to the day!

loislovesstewie · 26/07/2022 08:21

Well done you; for everything!StarStar Because you are one!

Igmum · 26/07/2022 08:23

Brilliant well done!

Longdistance · 26/07/2022 08:25

Well done 👏

Don't let the bastards grind you down!

Weefreetiffany · 26/07/2022 08:28

Love to hear it!

RhubarbFairy · 26/07/2022 08:29

This is one of the best things I have ever read!

Yes OP! You are fucking awesome.

5foot5 · 26/07/2022 08:30

Aw well done on all of it.

But seriously hanging the doors single handed must take some doing!

hangrylady · 26/07/2022 08:37

Great Post! You are an amazing role model to your children.

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