To tattoo "you have kids" on his arm??

[Womeninthesequel]

Light-hearted, because this is genuinely the only thing he does that makes me consider putting him under the patio...

For the past several months, at least once a week DH has come over to me and said "there's XYZ (pub trip, party, cocktail night, club social etc etc) going on tonight, do you fancy going?"

Well yes, DH, I'd love to, but WE HAVE TWO SMALL CHILDREN and you've only given me an hour's notice so no, I can't go!

And then he looks at me like he's been hit over the head and goes "oh shit yeah, of course not!"

He works part time and does the vast majority of the childcare, and yet it seems that an invitation to any social occasion makes him forget their existence. I can't decide whether I think it's hilarious or enraging.

Do you also spend a lot of your time helping Nigerian princes who are having terrible trouble transferring their inheritances between banks, OP?

Reaches for the Kleenex...

In fairness, if he does the majority of the day-to-day childcare stuff, why is it so difficult that you arrange babysitters?

If he does the vast majority of Childcare he hasn't forgotten about the kids. The question Is why he doesn't just say "James asked to meet me at the pub tonight" and just go?

Exactly!

Nothing would give me the ick quicker than someone thinking I was stupid and trying to trick me into doing something.

OP you know he’s not forgetting that he has kids so why are you playing along with it?

Just the way it shakes out I suppose - he does all the childcare, 90% of the housework, shopping and cooking, I do the making of money and all the life admin.

Also, all of our babysitters are teenage girls so it just feels more appropriate for me to be the one contacting them, though I'm aware that's a bit weird.

Amused by the number of posters who think he's Machiavelli.

This! You’re being played.

Dont be a fool. He knows full well you can’t go

This is advice given between men to get you to actually suggest they go out without you at short notice. My friend's useless partner "suggests" they go to the pub after work.
Silly DH, we have kids, why don't you go though?

Test it.
Next tim, say yes. Lovely. Sounds great. Yes.

If he replies what about the kids then you'll know.

I don't think anyone's suggesting that his trick is worthy of Machiavelli...!

This is what I did last night. Booked a babysitter and went out with him. Had a great night.

The usual being played by your husband.

Oh, so you can book a babysitter on an hour's notice? Lucky you! What's the problem, then?

In the school holidays I can, if I'm lucky! There isn't a problem, as I said, this is a light-hearted thread.

He doesn't work so that's unlikely.

Next time say yes that's great, meet you there! Let him sort the kids out.

Mine did this last night, said he fancied a beer and wanted to check out a new Irish pub. This was after kids and baby were asleep. He came back 15 minutes later with a bottle of Smirnoff Tropical and Oreos. Said he didn't fancy going without me, and that there were a lot of rowdy people on the streets. Lol