For thinking that women should wear what they want

[PeasOff]

Regardless of their body size.

Do you think people should 'dress for their size'? If so, what does that look like/mean to you?

People can and do dress as they please. Some look good , some look average, some look like an overstuffed sausage.
It's nobody else's business

I agree. The praisers would be fucking fuming if the overweight model lost weight for a start

Im a fat person, I wouldn't wear skimpy clothes because I would look utterly ridiculous
Others can wear what they want though even if it doesn't flatter them .

Sometimes certain outfits are inappropriate and this goes for men and women. In the same way I wouldn’t expect a male teacher to turn up in hot pants and a string vest, I don’t think it’s appropriate for a female teacher to wear short skirts or dresses or low cut tops.

There’s a school mum at DC’s school who has turned up to the school run wearing a mini skirt and knee length boots more than once, she looked like a prostitute. She turned up to a school performance last week wearing jeans with slits in the bottom?? Intentional slits, not like she accidentally bust her jeans open on the way or whatever. It’s just inappropriate to turn up to your DC’s school in outfits like that imo. And no, I’m not jealous of her before anyone suggests that.

Wear clothes appropriate for the occasion don't go shopping in the supermarket in pyjamas, dressing gown and slippers, or a bikini, or men in their trunks with no top on.

Just coming home from a festival, saw lots of women having a great time wearing whatever they wanted regardless of size. Lots of short denim shorts and crop tops etc… I think they look fabulous but it just wouldn’t be for me, I’d feel uncomfortable if I thought everyone was looking at my bum hanging out the bottom of my shorts or whatever, I think it comes down to confidence and I just haven’t got much.

I think people's responses change dependant on age, size and upbringing.

I can't comment for most people but those that I know this is a reasonably common topic of conversation. Truthfully over the age of 40 most of us wear what the hell we like. Accounting for work rules and appropriateness (to an extent I have noticed that some of the mums at school have made up stupid arbitrary rules about what's appropriate at the school gate. Entertainingly I fit their requirements and it's got nothing to do with them.....I just wear what works for me but I think some of the less than accepted mum's look bloody marvellous. And yes I've said so).

When I say appropriate it's for the weather or you know not wearing an actual bikini to the school run.

That said you always find the odd one in real life who hoiks the bosom and lays gems on everyone about dressing for size or what's "in" or appropriate. They have without fail turned out to have massive body issues and hangups and feel insistent to foist them on everyone else (as per the school mums above).

Truthfully after a certain age I find most people roll their eyes at people like that and snigger a bit. In your teens and twenties we all worried and now if I'm honest it seems a bit laughable to get hung up on not wearing certain things because of size or age.

The only people who witter this in real life are the ones that most people think are ridiculous or feel a bit sorry for them because they are so insecure.

Online of course more people witter away and think it's terribly insightful to comment on other people's clothing choices.

I rather like in the group of people I engage in there are all different shapes and sizes , some casual, some gym wear, some highly polished and some dressed to the nines. The only people that get laughed at are the ones who create these stupid rules. We generally assume they peaked in secondary school and stayed there.

Bikini at the beach: fine.

Bikini at the shops: not fine.

No matter what you weigh; this applies.

No way
Dress for the body you have
Not the body you wished you had.

To me, "dress for your size" merely means wear the RIGHT size. I have no issue with anyone of any size wearing what they want, but why wouldn't they wear the right size?

Admittedly this happens more with plus size I think, but squeezing yourself into a size 12 pair of jeans when you're more like a 16 surely isn't comfortable?!

I say that as someone whose clothes don't fit right now as I've gained 1.5st - but I have at least bought clothes that fit!

I work in women retail and most women haven't got a clue how to dress their body !

I think you should wear what you want though and not be judged and in my experience they do .

Let's face it though if you have a perfect hourglass slim figure you are going to look smashing in everything and if you don't you won't 🤷‍♀️

I think most women give up caring though tbh.

Wear what you like. We’ve been trained into what is flattering and unflattering. They’re literally just clothes on a body, who cares

Well some clothes are unflattering on a fat person and I say this as a fat person .

According to what? Who decides? If you are fat you are still fat if you wear clothes that don’t show rolls for example….everyone can still see that you’re bigger. A body is just a body and clothes are just clothes. I care very little about the choices other people make regarding their wardrobe and can’t imagine caring that a fat person is wearing something that might display fat

So you are not fat yourself ,you are fatsplaining ,most fat people know what flatters then and what doesn't.

People can wear whatever they want and I can silently think whatever I want about their choices.

So long as the necessary bits are covered, people can wear an old flour sack if that's what they like as far as I'm concerned.

@PPeasOff . No. Exposed flesh is a no-no for me whatever the size. As someone further up says, it's about wearing the right size rather than bursting out all over.

I am saying I don’t think we need to judge if someone chooses to wear clothes because they like them and not because society says it makes them look slimmer 🤨 or because they “flatter” someone’s body