Mansplaining

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Aibu to think omg are you having a laugh ?
sat on sofa and dp tells make sure you take off your sunglasses -perched on my hair - before you go to sleep or you will break them . Wow groundbreaking advice .

Maybe he thought you had forgotten the were there?

My reaction to this is to play into it in the extreme.

”how will they break? I didn’t know that”
”are you sure I can’t just wear them? Maybe I won’t even feel them…”

Go past the point of ridiculousness and back again.

Mansplaining is rage-inducing.

Not 100% sure this is mansplaining though. Perhaps more 'Captain Obvious'?

Don’t think this is mansplaining. I say the same to my DH … but he has broken two pairs of sunglasses.

Not mansplaining more stating the obvious.

Maybe he thought you had forgotten the were there?

Indeed, that's not explaining an idea, it's reminding you of something.

If he does that too much then it's really annoying (my mum does the same) but I'm not sure it's a man thing.

recently saw someone call it 'correctile disfunction'

agree with pp this is captain obvious, not mansplaining

I don’t tell him to take his reading glasses off his head . I am feeling got to 50 and don’t need to be told not to go to bed with glasses in my head .

Oh well ltb then 🙄

I read a tweet where a lady said she was always getting mansplaining at work. Instead of raging she responded to them like toddlers 'thats right sweetie that is what it is' and thats fabulous, you are really getting the process.

My reaction is always "thanks Einstein, I never would have worked that out for myself".

If this is the worst thing happening in your married life, you've got it really good.

Yeah that’s not mansplaining. That’s pointing out something you may have forgotten.

Mansplaining is when a man tries to correct what you’re saying. Even better when they are wrong

Would I be woman-splaining to correct your definition, @Soubriquet?

I think mansplaining is where a man goes into detail to explain a subject to a woman where she has plenty of knowledge / even more knowledge than him about.

This isn’t mansplaining. He’s trying to be helpful.

You clearly have other issues in your relationship that are affecting your reaction here.

I recently had a 25 Yr old mansplaining the menopause to me, a 55 year old woman..apparently his expertise is based on reading online stuff as his mum is going through it. I'm amazed she hasn't bashed him one yet..🤣

My husband kindly gave me a 'top tip' a few weeks ago while I was hanging out sheets on the line. He advised me not to let the sheets drag on the ground as they would get dirty. I've been hanging sheets out for 32 years without his sage wisdom, and he was hurt and surprised at my response and he said, 'I was only trying to help'. So I 'helped' him out for the rest of the day with advice such as, 'It's a good idea to stop at red lights.' and 'Look both ways to ensure there is no traffic coming before you pull out into a main road', and 'I find it better to use tea towels for drying dishes rather than bath towels.'

What exactly is helpful stating the obvious? Is it ever helpful?
I would be pissed tbh it's like he deems you so stupid that he assumes you will forget in the next 4/5/6 hours your glasses are on your head and just climb in to bed and go to sleep?

I think you should tell him to send these helpful tips to Take A Break. I love that sort of thing and might even pay him for it. Perhaps pin up a piece of paper and every time he comes out with a jem, write it down and tell him he should send them off once he's got 10 hot tips.

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here is some infuriating mansplaining stuff

People do ,I have looked for stuff I have been holding, my dh has searched for his glasses whilst they have been on his head 🤷‍♂️

The most recent mansplaining I have seen was a guy on Twitter explaining how Wimbledon tennis tournament works......to Martina Navratilova 🤣

Funniest one I saw, was a gynaecologist talking about vulvas. A man piped up with “well actually it’s called a vagina”

He tried to back pedal by saying that’s what everyone calls it, but in the end he swanned off and refused to talk about it.

DP is a huge pain in the ass sometimes when I'm driving, literally pointing out that there's a car coming the other way or to be careful in case another car doesn't stop at a junction. I've been driving over 30 years and he admits I'm a better driver than him.

I now respond by asking him how many accidents he's had, how many cars he's written off etc.