Gay friend said he loved me.

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My (male) gay friend and I have been friends for quite some time and see each other lots. We also speak to each other daily.

We were recently talking by text message and he told me he loved me. This came as a huge surprise as he definitely never talks about his feelings and he's not even a touchy-feely person either. It was in context but I didn't really know what to say so after an hour I said to him that I bet he tells everyone he loves them and then we both got busy with work and that was that.

Since then, we were texting again about something and I joked that he loved me now and he replied 'that's true'.

My gay friend doesn't love me romantically does he?

I was also very ill recently and he said he'd come and look after me if I needed him to. Something very out of character for him to say.

He has said to me a few times that he falls in love easily, but I have always presumed with men!

I tell friends I love them and vice versa. I’d assume he meant platonic love.

@Blue4YOU As I said, I'm sorry for your experience but it was a weird thing to write on the post I created. Any sexual assault is an awful thing to go through and if you want support, I'm sure if you start a thread then support will come flooding in.

That's a good question as he'd never be fully attracted to me, would he? At least, certainly not sexually.

Some of my friends have started telling me that they love in the last few years. I tell them the same thing back, because, well, I do. I care about them and they mean a lot to me.

I think having lived through so much isolation and death, many people are being more open about their feelings of (platonic) love because they've been pushed to their limits and now find it important to emphasise that social connection when they can.

A declaration of platonic love and romantic love should come across quite differently. If the person making the declaration isn't normally attracted to people like you (e.g. a gay man declaring love to a woman), it's a bit weird to assume it's a romantic declaration, especially if said in passing.

I’m imagining it’s platonic love. I love my gay male friends and I’m sure they love me too.

ive also had a male straight colleague email me at the end of a night out to say he loved me. I’m presuming he meant platonically though! (I’ve never mentioned it: on the assumption he was pissed and meant it platonically or he accidentally emailed me instead of his partner)

Sorry Op - I’m not trying to derail your thread. I was trying to make a serious point with the joke at my own expense.
Most people think gay is gay, bi is bi etc. so a gay man, for instance, couldn’t “actually” be in love with a woman as well as men, or sexually attracted to a woman (hence my hideous experience).
I always thought George Michael was gay. He was. He was still sexually attracted to women (I got this from Wikipedia- not because I’m actually interested in his sexuality but I was reading about him when I watched a documentary about him and that was, one of the many, things I didn’t know about him).
Before I was assaulted by the doctor I’d have thought gay men couldn’t be attracted to it in live with women (bisexual men could) but that experience made me re-think that.
Thats what I was trying to get at - sorry if it sounded like I was describing your (perfectly lovely sounding) gay friend as a sexual predator. So, I’ll leave your thread but I suppose I wanted to say he could actually love you non-platonically. It’s less likely but not impossible. I suspect he’ll let you know if it it the case.

Or in love with not live in