To talk to my son about weight

[WonderingMum2]

DS is 13, not really gone through puberty yet, voice not broken etc but very emotional so it’s on the way. My worry is he has put on a lot of weight this summer. He’s very active but with clubs stopping for the summer the weight is going on and he is totally addicted to sugar. Craves sweet things… outings are based around the treats available… destinations rated as to the quality of the ice cream etc. pocket money spent on treats. so AIBU to bring it up? I don’t want him to get a complex but equally I can see him sliding into the over weight category and getting unhealthy. And I’m afraid if this continues he’ll give up sport and it’ll get worse. His friends are pretty inactive gamers which doesn’t help . We have a lot of treats in the house. I want to stop buying them but DH says he needs to learn to regulate his own behaviour. DH comes from a family of beanpoles who can eat what they want though … DS has inherited my family’s body shape which tends to beer belly etc.

Its very unfair expecting a 13 year old to learn self regulation around sugar..quite clearly something millions of people older than him are unable to do.

As someone who has a real sweet tooth i know the more rubbish I eat the more my blood sugar goes up and down and I feel desperate for more sugar.

By getting rid of the crap st home ...which are totally empty calories
..your son will learn to go for longer stretches and eventually entire day's! Without sugar. Thst is what he needs to learn.

Your husband is being very irresponsible.

1 in 3 11 year olds in England are obese.

Being obese at 11 is not a little phase that will definitely pass.

I have two boys and would suggest no need to bring it up as they tend to barrel before they short up . One of ours has a tendency to do this regularly .. I just up the protein .. loads of meat/dried meat/ full fat yoghurt and a few weeks later je shoots up a bit taller and on we go ... so far at 6 foot 2

Give DH a treat cupboard that the kids don’t know about. Cut out treats at home and I’d cut the pocket money too. Eating sugar create s a cycle where you just want more of the stuff.

Being obese at 11 is not a little phase that will definitely pass

obese based on what? BMI?

BMI is flawed.

BMI is flawed.

It may be flawed but the vast majority of people with a high BMI are fat.

The 'flawed' thing is only normally pointed out by those in denial.