Not too sure I am overthinking this. I have stepped back to think. But here is the story I need some perspective on.
My best friend is a guy. We did date briefly about 4 years ago but it was more a friend vibe so ended it after 1 month. No attraction for both just got on really well. During lockdowns we spent lots of time together in a bubble as we were both single - no sex just good company. closeness continues.
We were both on dating sites and each met someone around February time. My relationship is blooming - he is an amazing guy and we go out on lots of dates and see each other 4/5 days a week, but still have our own interests and friends. Have met friends and family. I am falling in love with my boyfriend and hopefully can see a future. We have booked a holiday to see my family abroad this autumn.
my male friend seems to live a drama filled life with women. He is a great guy, kind etc, but can’t seem to form proper relationships or date. His girlfriend is a drama filled needy girl. She is nice but has had a very dramatic life - lost her drivers license, 5 kids, lots of debt and has been back and forth with her kids dad for 16 years, breaking up and getting back together 7 times. She is doing the same thing to my male friend. They broke up as she needed my friend to “want her.”
she kept comparing her relationship with my relationship - saying your friend goes out on lots of dates and plans fun stuff. I just think I am normal dating and glad I have met a guy who likes to chill at home, but also days out etc. we do nothing exciting really.
Queue lots of texts from my male friend asking what to do for dates as his idea of dating is sitting on the sofa watching tv. So he has started to do the dates I do with my boyfriend or asking to double date - cynical in me thinks Its lazy dating. It’s like a mirror of my dating life. The girl is happy that she is doing stuff now, but my boyfriend and I are fed up with a clueless couple gatecrashing our dates.
My boyfriend knows the history of me and him and is fine. They have met and get on. However my boyfriend keeps saying my male friends partner looks like me and now they are trying to be like us. We have distanced ourselves from them as it’s weird. Boyfriend is not jealous as he jokingly says my male friend is no competition and he trusts me. I certainly do not want to date my friend.
I have told my friend this and he understood. But now keeps saying my boyfriend and me are rushing things, it’s too early to be that serious etc. we do too much to get to know each other and are too lovey towards each other - we just hold hands or a kiss on the cheek occasionally whilst out being affectionate. It’s like he is now criticising my relationship as I chucked him out of a weird couple thing and he now has to think of things to do.
I can see disaster written over this and now getting blamed for my male friends relationship not working again as he can’t date properly.
I need to walk away really?