DS and dangerous behaviour

[springisaroundthecorner]

I'm generally having a nightmare with DS(16). He's been in a large, derelict building today. I know where it is and it is in a really bad state. He could have been killed and it was trespassing. He text me to say it was fun. The police won't help. Who can help? He just doesn't see danger. He has ADHD and some learning issues. He's just doing one stupid thing after another.
I asked for help from social services and they just referred to MAST who have a long waiting list. We don't give him money

because he's stayed out all night on 2 occasions and comes home very late on other nights. I'm ready to explode but aware this may drive him to worse things.

If he has ADHD and learning difficulties the police are duty bound to become involved if he is a danger to himself. Does he have support at school? They may be able to.help with actions, consequences and behaving responsibly. He should also be under CAMHS if he is medicated. They may be able to give you further advice.

School finished 5 weeks go. He can't take medication. He's tried a lot of different types but all had bad side effects. CAMHS have a waiting list of over 6 months. Police said it's up to the landlord of the empty building but they are usually disinterested, as it's empty and derelict. Police also said I have to follow him if I'm concerned.

this might sound crazy, but if you have the money, would you consider signing him up for some “high risk” lessons of some sort? Something involving paragliding, surfing, scuba diving or rafting? Even something like kick boxing might be a fit? It’s all still dangerous, but at least it’s in a controlled environment with safety measures. It sounds like is going to need and outlet, especially if medication isn’t an option. It also sounds like he could do with being worn out a bit. He’s growing fast and that age will have bags of energy to burn off.

He's an advanced lead climber. He's been climbing for 5 years every week and does boxing. But since school finished all he wants to do is be out all the time and has shut off from all his usual activities

Is there a parkour club near you at all?

Is there an outdoor activities centre near you . They may have some space for volunteers to help with summer camps. He'd get to do the activities like climbing wall, gorge scrambling etc

Ah makes sense- maybe some thing else dangerous… but novel, that he hasn’t tried before? Does he by any chance have older male relatives into an interesting sport who could show him the ropes?