To go to the festival?

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"D"H has forbade me to go to a festival I have booked tickets for in September. He's saying if I go, he will leave me and I'm choosing it over my family.

For background, says he worries about me when I'm drinking. But won't listen to any compromise (I've said I won't drink) but he won't listen and talks over me just saying no.

AIBU to just go? It's not like I'm out clubbing every week, I work hard and take care of my family.

This. Always do the former. I rarely do the latter (only when it's disruptive or there's additional work for DH).

@yonce

Nope.

Me having plans wouldnt ever impact on him (he never has plans).

I know what he works, dont need to ask.

And if for some reason anything classed we have plenty other childcare options

In which case go. Either he is controlling and you need boundaries and to leave, or he's being a bit of a twat, in which case you need boundaries.

Given your updates, I'd say he's entirely in the wrong. He has no right to tell you what to do or where to go unless you're behaving in a way that impacts him - which you aren't.

I would laugh in his face, tbh, and go to the festival. If that means the breakup of a relationship that has turned toxic and unhealthy, then so be it.

Sounds like a hollow threat and he will not go through with it.

Assuming if he says this every year and you go every year he won't actually go through with it ?
How tiresome though, I couldn't be arsed with this every year. Tell him to leave if he doesn't like it.

You do not need his permission to go anywhere.
He has no right to "forbid" you.
This issue may just be an indication of much bigger problems, sadly.

Of course you should go. It would never occur to me to get permission to go out or to an event, I would just make sure the logistics worked out with my husband and visa versa.

What are the cultural issues OP?