To not want to look after nieces?

[TheLostNights]

Sister can't leave them with the babysitter anymore as keeps getting bad reports back. Yet she doesn't believe it's true and wants me to have them every Friday over summer. To be honest, I'm not convinced they won't play up for me and it's my one day off a week which I use for housework /catching up with life etc. Don't mind having them here and there but every Friday for 6 weeks is not something I want to do. Aibu ?

She has a childcare solution (camp), it's just the eldest isn't happy about it. I'm sure lots of kids who have to go to holiday childcare would prefer to be somewhere else.

In your place, the most I would be offering would be one or two Fridays.

I too think family should help IF they can. Suppose it's different for everyone depending on their own personal circumstances. I'm currently a stay at home mum to 2 boys, 2 and 4 as we would struggle for childcare so my partner just works. I have my niece one or 2 days a week to help my sister out. She's a student nurse.

I totally disagree. I’m not entitled to my sister’s labour. She works PT. That doesn’t mean I’m entitled to save 2 days nursery fees a week on the basis that she somehow owes me her time and labour because we share parents. Her time is her own!

I’m a ‘working mum’. FT. Do you know what I do? Pay for childcare. Like millions of other women do.

It would be a big fat 'no' from me too. Your day off is not a doss, you are busy. She'll just have to stick with the camp or find another solution - you are not her

oops! You are not her skivvy.

The sister doesn't seem to believe there is an issue with the behaviour, so I'd wonder how much she is going to listen to feedback.