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girlfrien · 22/07/2022 15:59

Had a few breaks recently. Who wouldn't if they could but bear in mind also nobody went anywhere for two years.

Happened to mention to cousin that I was away next week for a few days when she asked me if I could go somewhere and she said again in a sarky tone.
Just ignored it. I would never say that to someone. I would just say great or something or have a good time.
Do I have to not mention it now if I
go away or just ignore her? Why should I feel uncomfortable about telling her?
I know lots of people who have lots of breaks good for them and some have more than me.What's wrong with her that she needs to comment? I wouldn't.

OP posts:
VainAbigail · 22/07/2022 16:03

Happened to mention to cousin that I was away next week for a few days when she asked me if I could go somewhere and she said again in a sarky tone.

This doesn’t make sense.

Yodaisawally · 22/07/2022 16:04

VainAbigail · 22/07/2022 16:03

Happened to mention to cousin that I was away next week for a few days when she asked me if I could go somewhere and she said again in a sarky tone.

This doesn’t make sense.

This, I don't understand what you are saying.

Original poster
girlfrien · 22/07/2022 16:04

She said again as in your going away again.

OP posts:
11Hawkins · 22/07/2022 16:05

VainAbigail · 22/07/2022 16:03

Happened to mention to cousin that I was away next week for a few days when she asked me if I could go somewhere and she said again in a sarky tone.

This doesn’t make sense.

This. ^ it doesn't make sense.

Elsanore · 22/07/2022 16:05

She said, "Again!?" in a snaky tone of voice.

Elsanore · 22/07/2022 16:06

Snarky not snaky!

lancsgirl85 · 22/07/2022 16:06

OP's cousin asked OP to go somewhere with her. OP said "I can't I'm away". Cousin replied in sarky tone: "again?".

Is that right, OP?

Loics · 22/07/2022 16:07

Ooh okay, so she's being sarcastic and making it clear she thinks you go away too much, basically. I would ignore it, it's up to you if you want to tell her if you go away again in future, but maybe best to not say unless she asks, given the way she reacted. If you decided to not tell her, I wouldn't blame you! But YANBU, you've done nothing wrong.

alsonotmyname · 22/07/2022 16:08

I'd just reply with a 'yes, I love my breaks....nice to get away..... like to go as often as I can' comments, she's either jealous or doesn't like going away and can't understand why you do

CoolAir · 22/07/2022 16:08

You just say
"Yeah isn't it great being able to get away again and finally take all the holidays we missed out on when we've all been cooped up for 2 years. We need to all make the most of it, never know what's round the corner.
Now I can do X&Y dates if that suits you". all said with a bright and breezy smile!

Alwayswonderedwhy · 22/07/2022 16:10

She said what again?

Original poster
girlfrien · 22/07/2022 16:11

lancsgirl85 · 22/07/2022 16:06

OP's cousin asked OP to go somewhere with her. OP said "I can't I'm away". Cousin replied in sarky tone: "again?".

Is that right, OP?

Yes.

OP posts:
WhenDovesFly · 22/07/2022 16:13

Either ignore it or say "Yes, AGAIN. Do you have a problem with that?"

eldora · 22/07/2022 16:13

Do I have to not mention it now if I go away

No, you don’t have to do anything OP. Maria, this is your trunk, these are your gowns. You may arrange them in any way you wish. Lady Catherine will never know!

Original poster
girlfrien · 22/07/2022 16:15

WhenDovesFly · 22/07/2022 16:13

Either ignore it or say "Yes, AGAIN. Do you have a problem with that?"

Lol good answer.

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SpaceJamtart · 22/07/2022 16:16

She was lightly sarky, thats not a big deal and not something you need to address with her.
Get over it and enjoy your holiday

Rosebel · 22/07/2022 16:20

I'd ignore it. I expect she's actually just jealous that you are able to go away for breaks and she can't.

Octomore · 22/07/2022 16:28

I'd just ignore. No reply is needed.

She's being a twat.

Octomore · 22/07/2022 16:30

CoolAir · 22/07/2022 16:08

You just say
"Yeah isn't it great being able to get away again and finally take all the holidays we missed out on when we've all been cooped up for 2 years. We need to all make the most of it, never know what's round the corner.
Now I can do X&Y dates if that suits you". all said with a bright and breezy smile!

Why on earth would anyone feel the need to justify themselves like this?

This sounds a lot worse than simply saying, "Yes, that's right" or something equally anodyne.

Octomore · 22/07/2022 16:38

Also, why do people keep claiming that they have been "cooped up for two years"? With the exception of the specific lockdowb periods, I know I haven't, and nor has anyone I know.

I went on several weekend breaks and a UK holiday in summer 2020, a UK holiday in spring 2021, plenty more weekends away last summer, then abroad in the autumn of 2021, winter skiing this year...

I make no apologies and don't need to justify it, it was all legal and within the rules.

dottypotter · 22/07/2022 21:31

Just ignore it. Aren't people silly. You can go away as many times as you Iike. Who wants to stay at home if you can get away and enjoy yourself.
You can tell alot about people from what they say.

blueskyeve · 22/07/2022 21:42

She's clearly jealous. Maybe think about how it might make her feel before telling her. It seems like she's not in the same fortunate position as you and isn't able to take many trips away.

girlfriend44 · 22/07/2022 21:46

So I shouldn't tell her the truth if she asks me if I'm available?
Why should I lie. The funny thing is she has just been away.

Paul72 · 22/07/2022 21:48

We bought new caravan in November 2019.
We booked a few holidays in 2020 and some in 2021.
Most were cancelled due to Covid so to avoid losing our money we rearranged dates.
Some people are sarcastic because we are way a lot now but it is our@girlfrien choice.

just go and enjoy your holidays.

StoneofDestiny · 22/07/2022 21:55

Say 'yes again! Great eh?'