To go to LGBTQ bars

[Summer210]

I'm a 'straight' person. Like to go to LGBTQ venues as always have a great time. DP not as comfortable. AIBU?

You're very strange. Back in the day I used to go to gay bars and no one gave a damn. Why would they?

Sorry, should clarify- I don't give a damn. I just wonder what the LGBTQ community opinion is... I'm an overthinker.

Yanbu

Um. Go?

What's your DP's issue?

Yabu. Although now that the TQ have decided to colonise everywhere they’re almost all straight bars anyway. The good old days of true lesbian and gay bars are long gone and once again homosexuals have been pushed aside to accommodate straight people who think it’s all a good laugh 🙄

Yanbu. You would be unreasonable, however, to make a less than happy DP go.

Agreed.
I used to go to bars with gay friends.
There's no way I'd pitch up with a load of straight friends in tow. I think it's rude to encroach on spaces like that.

i do think it's unreasonable if you get annoyed/uncomfortable if a gay person hits on you but if you don't and you're respectful of their space i don't see the problem

YABU, gay spaces are for gay people

They are very much open, unless you want straight spaces fml

There is no LGBTQ "opinion". We're a very diverse thinking bunch.

If you're asking would anybody within the letter soup have a problem with it, the answer is yes.

Others wouldn't though.

And as the last two letters include heterosexuals, there's no way now for the people who have a problem with you there to say anything about it.

It's a rather strange situation!

The most important feminist lesson of my life was taught to me in this circumstance. I was in Heaven (old skool) I got hit on by a lovely lesbian. I said, "sorry I'm straight". She said, "don't apologise for your sexuality, I certainly don't apologise for mine". Fucking sisterhood.

Never ever have I had that experience turning down a bloke.

I've gone a lot with a mixed bag of gay/straight/bi friends in the past. And once on my hen with a group of mostly straight women and we were very much welcome. Not sure I'd go now knowing how tough it is out there.

I can't speak for the gay community, but I've felt mostly welcomed on nights out. I'll be honest and say I'm not into gay 'culture', but I enjoy feeling safe on a night out so prefered to frequent gay bars. I was assaulted unprovoked by a very clearly out of it drag DJ at a bar so I haven't been clubbing at all since cos it frightened me. That's not representive of every place- I felt safe 9 times out of 10 and my friends continue to go. (Half of our friends are gay so I suppose that influences things lol)

I wouldn't go without an LGB friend inviting me. I've had some brilliant nights at gay clubs.even helped a community gay bar with volunteer barwork but always accompanied by a LGB friend.