Keep going over conversations

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I always go this. I’m worried I’m going to destroy the start of summer holidays with my craziness. Please help me:

just me up with DS’s friends and their mums. I keep going over what I said to them and if anything was inappropriate.

Has something in particular happened it’s not clear from your post?

Or are you anxious about very normal things that you might have said?

@Badgirlgonegood I don’t think I said anything bad. But I keep second guessing myself.?I have anxiety so I keep worrying in case I offended anyone.

Can you explain more?

I see, I suffer from this to, it is a real battle, I can have a really good day and people might say nice things to me but I will always find a way to dissect the conversation and think people must have thought badly of me.

You just need to know it’s all in your head. I find what helps me is literally telling myself off in my own head and stopping my thoughts in their tracks. I tell myself that while I am analysing everything I said, other people won’t even remember it! It’s true, everyone has their own stuff going on.

Have you had any help like therapy for this?

@Badgirlgonegood thavk you. Yes I’ve had therapy but then kept thinking what therapist thought of me. It’s exhausting

I have this too. Currently on Sertraline for anxiety. I try and tell myself that im the only one going over and over what i said, the others dont care. Its just your brain playing tricks. It is hard to live with though

@Winterfellismyhome does the medication work? How much do you take? I’m worried about medication as I don’t want to take it all my life

It works for me. Im on 50mg. I dont plan on being on it forever, im going to come off it once DD is a bit older :)

I do this sometimes. I go home and worry I’ve done something or said something wrong. I know deep down I haven’t. Like if someone’s text seems a bit short, or if a friend leaves a little early I worry if it’s something I’ve said or done. Completely irrational and not true!
Especially if they are going through a hard time, I always worry I’ll say the wrong thing

Citralipram is fab for anxiety like this.
You likely won't need it long term, but so what if you did? I have had very bad MH struggles and am resigned to the fact I'll be on anti depressants forever, but that's OK as I'd rather be well.

I have this really badly, I had DS's birthday party at the weekend. I've analysed everything I've said and replaying reactions. I found something that may have been slightly offensive and it's now all I can think of. One of the mums walked past me and had a slight frown on her face and now my brain thinks she hates me but I doubt she even acknowledged it was me.

I absolutely hate it and it's really really draining

Sorry to the ones also feeling like this. It’s not nice at all. I know exactly what a PP said about birthday party and analysis of conversations as I’ve done this every year.

How old are you ? This can be a symptom of peri menopause.

I'm exactly like this! It's knackering. I do have GAD though so it is just my anxiety. It's worse if I'm stressed but it's always more or less there. I try not to think about these conversations too much and when I find myself going down that rabbit hole I try to stop myself and just do something else. Easier said than done but it sometimes works!

What really helped me was the realisation that most people don't really give a shit about what other people do or say as they're too busy worrying about themselves. I realised that in my anxiety I was/am a bit self centered and that most people do not go over the conversations they have had with me and analyse my every word.

(Anxiety sucks!)

Hi OP. I hope you’re ok. I just started sertraline this week for anxiety. You don’t need to live like this - it’s exhausting.

im sure you’re a lovely person and you deserve a bit of peace from worrying. Also, remember if you say something wildly inappropriate then it’s like you’d know from the reaction of the person you’re speaking with.

id definitely get some help to start to live a happier life

Thank you all.

@YonderTweek really good point about people don’t think about us! I never thought of it that way

You don't have to suffer like this, please see your GP. Honestly, my only regret is waiting so long.

There was a piece in the DM about this last week, entitled “Overthinker”. I had not just every symptom but about 100 more. My family and my dcs are all the same too! It makes even the most minor social interaction exhausting - before, during and for years after ! At least now we are open about it and can have a laugh about rehearsing conversations with people and then replaying endlessly.

I am so envious of those who can breeze through life in the luxurious state of obliviousness.

@Womenandwomenfirst please if you have a link post here. I think my overthinking started by observing the women in my extended family. They would gossip about everyone. One example I was about 12 years old and we were at a family party and my aunty said to this woman “wow! You look absolutely gorgeous “ or something along those lines. Then back at home the aunty and other relatives were laughing and saying nasty things about the woman. It really hit me that people don’t always mean what they say and probably stick with me so I think I analyse. Everything I say or others say incase there’s a hint of something they don’t mean!

not sure if this makes sense. But I think seeing the women who would constantly analyse everyone’s clothes and conversations is what has stuck with me