I'm heavily pregnant, about to pop at any time. FIL was taken ill on Monday night and DH has had to rush back to his hometown (4 hours away) to be there for in laws etc. He's on the mend now, thank goodness and DH is due back Saturday.
Anyway, he begged me to get my mum (who lives 10 minutes down the road) to come and stay whilst he was away as he was worried if I went into labour in the middle of the night and was in the house on my own etc. I really didn't think it was necessary but he said it in front of my mum and she jumped at the chance and said of course she'd come and stay. Now, I know why she'd jump at the chance, it's because my DF does her head in and she saw it as a week away from him!
She doesn't work and is a bit of a 'princess' My dad does all the cooking, every single night. Granted though she does do all the cleaning etc, so it's a split that works for them.
So she's been staying since Tuesday night but her .....selfishness (for want of a better expression) is now starting to grate on me. She's gone home during the day but come back for dinner each evening, cooked by me 🙄Yesterday I was watering the plants in the garden with a watering can as dragging the hose all around the garden is just too much for me now (there's no hosepipe ban here) I told her I wasn't able to drag the hose around anymore the day before. She stood there for 15 mins watching me walking to and from the outside tap with the watering can and then went 'You know it'd be much quicker with a hose' I snapped 'Yes, I do, but as I said, I'm struggling now to be dragging the hose about.' She knew that was a bit of a dig at her so she looked all sulky and then muttered 'well I'd have done it for you.' Except she wouldn't have, not unless I'd have specifically asked her, I'm the type of person that would offer.
There's been lots of little things like this all week. She messaged me earlier to say 'don't worry about cooking for me tonight' to which I was relieved as it means I can just make myself any old thing or tbh not bother as I'm finding eating meals in the evening difficult now, no space with the baby taking up all the room! I then get a text an hour later saying 'I'll be over at 5.30, if you don't want to cook for us, we could just get a McDonalds or something?' So I've just messaged back saying, I thought you said not to worry about dinner? I KNOW she wanted dinner though as she's been saying all week how I'm a 'much better cook than my dad blah blah' and any chance she or my dad get they're around for dinner, often just inviting themselves, this has pissed DH off in the past.
I know I'm probably BU but it just makes me sad as so many of my friend's mum's are such lovely, kind people who adore their daughters and will do anything for them, mine has always been inherently selfish, she won't do anything for anyone else and when she does she makes a HUGE deal of it to get recognition etc and all week she's seen me struggling to do things and hasn't once offered any help.
I know people will say 'but she's given up her time to stay with you.' but I KNOW that's only because there was something in it for her.
But then I'm sat here thinking, well, cooking dinner for her each night isn't exactly a hardship so I should probably just do it graciously and not resent it. I think it's just because not once has she ever offered. I also worry about what she'll do if anything ever happened to my dad as she hasn't cooked a meal in about 10 years 🙄
AIB an U grumpy pregnant person?