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AIBU to consider a formal work complaint about catching covid?

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sickandbothered · 21/07/2022 12:09

So I'm currently sick in bed 1 week after catching covid, and the more I think about it the angrier I get about how easily avoidable this was.

I work in an organisation where we have compulsory hybrid working - we have to come in 2-3 days a week minimum (not because our jobs actually require it but to justify the rent/costs/for the appearance of things). I am also 6 months pregnant & have type-1 diabetes, both known/visible to my colleagues. Both factors put me in the higher risk category for covid (I had my vaccinations/booster in the same cohort as to 70+, for context).

I came in to work last week for meetings. While there I passed a very chatty colleague who I know well enough ( & vice versa), who told me she currently had covid & was very sick with it, had tested positive a few days ago, was still acutely symptomatic (she complained to me of sore throat, fatigue, insomnia, congestion etc), but it was ok for her to come in because she'd since had 1 negative test so her supervisor gave her permission. I politely tried to keep my distance, and figured it was above board and not my business. Later she came up to my desk to talk to me about something she wanted done from a team mate of mine, again, nothing to do with me & I tried to politely end the conversation repeatedly (literally saying she should email them directly, repeatedly), but she has a tendency to keep talking until she's exhausted conversation options. Again, annoying but no big deal I thought.

Otherwise I went to 1 cafe briefly that day, but did not go inside any other buildings other than my home, nor did I go out much that week other than dog walking. No one else I was in contact with has has covid. In short I know it's impossible to prove, but I'm fairly sure I got it from the woman at work.

2 days later I got my first covid symptoms, and have been bed ridden since. Its my first time getting covid. It's very stressful because as I'm pregnant & diabetic the risk of serious infection is higher, and I can't take any OTC remedies, or even honey & lemon tea. My blood sugars are through the roof & I've had to increase my insulin over 200% to try and keep my baby safe, I'm constantly fighting the diabetes. Now my husband is sick & bedridden too. We've both been off work all week. We've had to cancel a small family reunion with overseas family we were going to see this weekend, haven't seen them for 4 years, now it will be even longer. My team at work could also have done without this as we're busy & v understaffed currently.

I checked my work guidance last week before the symptoms really kicked in and it's pretty clear if you have covid symptoms you're not supposed to come in until they're gone, and that you need multiple negative tests on different days before coming back in the office. I raised this (mentioning no names) with our organisations covid team ahead of the heatwave bc I was concerned about people coming in for the air conditioning & getting sick like I had (we have several pregnant women at work), but had no response from them until after the heatwave when they said they would review the covid guidance in a couple of weeks.

So I'm thinking of complaining. It would not be about the individual necessarily (although I am personally v angry with her for choosing to come in when she was sick, she has a clerical job so to my knowledge there was no need for her to come in). Instead my complaint would be about the fact that her supervisor gave the wrong advice, and that the organisation has not taken the current covid risks seriously at all, or adequately responded. That said, given the response thus far, not sure a formal complaint would be well received, or even listened to at all...

Still shattered & sick in bed. Breathing is difficult but not so much that it's worth a hospital trip. It's really painful to cough. Hard to sleep because of the pregnancy. Exhausted. And is being pissed off a covid symptom?

I did expect to catch covid eventually but honestly, I do think this particular case could have been avoided. I am trying to focus on the bright side - at least I didn't get it in the last month of pregnancy when it's the most dangerous to the baby. And hopefully this will help my husband and my immunity ahead of birth/the first year.

So: AIBU to be considering complaining about catching covid at work?

OP posts:
MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 21/07/2022 17:26

A safe working environment maybe?

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 21/07/2022 17:27

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 21/07/2022 17:26

A safe working environment maybe?

Sooty - that was in response to a poster saying what did she want the employer to do given government abolishing self isolation requirements etc

MyrtlethePurpleTurtle · 21/07/2022 19:19

< Sorry, not Sooty > 🙄

Rosehugger · 22/07/2022 08:05

The difference this year, is that most people are vaccinated

And most people's last vaccination was six or seven months ago. Doubt it is making very much difference now.

TheKeatingFive · 22/07/2022 10:10

And most people's last vaccination was six or seven months ago. Doubt it is making very much difference now

It absolutely is in preventing severe disease

BungleandGeorge · 22/07/2022 10:18

She was several days into the illness, had tested negative and you got symptoms 2 days later? It sounds like you might well have picked it up from someone other than her. Did anyone else catch it?
I think it’s a good idea to ask the company to send a memo out reminding people about not going to work sick but if she tested negative and was over 5 days into the illness she wouldn’t be expected to isolate according to all the guidelines.
I think the problem is that so many people have covid you will be in contact with it frequently unless you isolate. Hope you feel better soon

Louzzan · 22/07/2022 18:16

Hoping you beat Covid soon. No advice from my side, just to let you know you are not alone. I am self employed and unable to work due to someone who had Covid thinking it okay to come into our home and make us all sick! We had no idea they were positive and they were only with us for a few hours. We are fully vaccinated, but completely exhausted by this Covid strain. I hope your work never asks you to come in again when still pregnant. And most importantly, the person with Covid at your work should not have been in the same room as anyone else!

restingbitchface30 · 22/07/2022 18:16

Aw I’ve no advice but just want to say I’m in the same boat, you aren’t alone. 35+6 with twins and have had covid for 3 days. Barely slept. Cried a lot as my c section is due and I’m worried my partner will get it. It’s rubbish but just rest up 💐

user1493559472 · 22/07/2022 18:35

I am sorry to hear that you have Covid. I have had it recently- tested positive on the 12th July. It is horrible. I have had all of my vaccines, wear a mask etc and I am a Key worker. I don't know where I caught it, it is so hard to know. I don't think complaining to work will do anything. I would ensure you wear a mask all the time and maybe now just work from home? I would say you are very high risk, you need to protect your self and your baby. This is a nasty strain. I am still very tired etc. Good luck.

surreygirl1987 · 22/07/2022 18:52

Hmm I'm sorry you have covid but, like any other illness you could have got, don't we have to live with it now? You could have got it from anywhere anyway.

I'm a schoolteacher. We have more than 1000 kids in school and a bunch of pregnant teachers. They've got kids will all sorts of illnesses, I causing covid, around them all the time. It's part or working with people I'm afraid. If you have a job with a wfh option, you could take that option - if not an option and you're genuinely concerned, I guess you could try and have adjustments made through a risk assessment, or try to find a new job with a wfh option. Covid is here to stay, along with many other illnesses.

Zombiemum1946 · 22/07/2022 19:12

Covid or not, if she was clearly that unwell she shouldn't have gone into work, especially if there's a wfh option. She placed others at risk when she didn't need to, when there was an alternative available. Her supervisor should not have given her the all clear to come in whilst she was still symptomatic. If it was because of the enforced face showing in the office, then that's a policy that needs to be readdressed .

jenkel · 22/07/2022 19:56

I think the only reason you should complain is if they have policies on covid and these weren’t followed. Both times I have had covid I have had no idea who I caught it from, and the time when I was in contact with somebody who at the time didn’t realise they had covid I didn’t get it. Also, both times I had covid I never knowingly passed it on to anybody that I knew. You can not prove where and by whom you contracted covid. I do hope your feeling better soon.

Ggu · 22/07/2022 19:59

courtrai · 21/07/2022 12:42

Whilst a 2 day incubation period is possible it's short; my DP recently managed to inadvertently infect his dad and that was a definite 6 day incubation period.

It's impossible to prove and I'm not entirely sure what you'd seek to gain

Pregnant and with type 1 diabetes I would expect a much shorter incubation period

MissMalificent · 22/07/2022 20:13

yes, YABU
suck it up Princess

Stars2theside · 22/07/2022 20:27

No, YANBU at all! To those saying you are, they should put themselves in your shoes! It's shit getting covid. I'm on my 2nd infection and the tiredness is unbearable, plus it's now the summer holidays and we're due to go away next weekend. I hope you recover soon OP. I say make the complaint. I would. It's disgraceful the lack of care your employer have. Good luck 💐

CrowUpNorth · 22/07/2022 20:30

There is a problem if the company isn't following its own risk assessments - if you have a safety rep or union rep they could advise. You don't know for sure where you picked it up from, there's not going to be any recognition work gave it to you, but my place has just reminded all staff and managers that if you are symptomatic or positive to WFH. Thats probably the best you can hope for.

goodmorningcampers · 22/07/2022 20:40

colleague told me she currently had covid
and
she'd since had 1 negative test

To me these statements contradict.

If colleague had a negative test following covid then they no longer have covid which means they can come to work in the office?

I hope you're ok OP, get medical advice and request to work from home. That seems the best and safest option for you

WhimsicalGubbins · 22/07/2022 21:11

To be honest, yes, I think you are being unreasonable.
The official guidance states you do not have to isolate at all even if currently positive. We have to now ‘live with covid’ just like we do every other virus going.
And this woman clearly said she tested negative, which means she either didn’t have enough infectious particles to generate a positive (in which case also not enough to infect you) OR that she was actually negative (in which case again, she would not be able to infect you)

Have you raised a complaint every time you’ve caught flu or a cold from the office? Or a norovirus? No.

Jenbarron · 22/07/2022 22:07

Due to your health condition and pregnancy you could have asked as a reasonable adjustment for full time home working. Returning to hybrid working post maternity leave.

However, the second someone says ‘i have Covid-19’ and you remain in conversation with them you only have yourself to blame. That you didn’t say ‘im pregnant would you please back off’ is mind boggling.

work should have clearer policies. Ignore the ‘youll be marked as trouble’ posts. You’ll be saving them a fortune in tribunal fees from someone who decides take it further

SQLserved · 22/07/2022 22:47

ScentOfSawdust · 21/07/2022 13:15

This.

Seconded.

In addition, can you get a letter from your GP or midwife saying you are medically advised to work from home?

NattyNatashia · 22/07/2022 22:51

I think as you and others have said you can't prove where you got it. That said if the company is not following it's own rules and given your condition I think it would be worth raising to help minimise further illnesses which is good for staff and the business alike. You'll know how the company acts generally and whether they will take much notice.

Twopandemicpregnancies · 22/07/2022 23:08

My workplace made pregnant women exempt from having to come into the office, whether high risk or not. I think all workplaces where remote work is possible should allow this.

Upsetmom · 23/07/2022 04:13

Gosh poor you, sorry you feel so dreadful. My son is T1. My understanding is that as long as you can carb count for it you can eat anything so you can eat/drink anything so I would definitely take honey and lemon if you think it will help. I would also talk to your diabetic care team about managing blood sugars and your midwife about meds you can take when pregnant to help. Hope you are feeling better soon.

jaxj22 · 23/07/2022 04:41

If you were that vulnerable and worried you'd have worn a mask.

Sunflowergirl1 · 23/07/2022 04:45

Well is painful..part though of living with it.

I currently have covid. All typical symptoms. Day 9 now and still feel shit and testing positive (work in health so have to test). My boss has identical symptoms and is negative, so basically she has a bad cold and also feels shit! Got a couple of other friends who have similar symptoms and they don't know if covid or a,cold. Both Corona viruses and in the last I would have always gone not work with a cold. This time I worked from home

The reality is soon enough testing will cease completely so you won't know...won't make you feel any better though