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AIBU to not know what to do here? Baby induction

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BabyIncomingg · 20/07/2022 23:53

I attended the hospital today for reduced movements and they did a CTG and said they wanted to induce the baby either today or tomorrow. I asked for tomorrow so I could get some bits and pieces organised overnight. Then they checked and said they're fully booked for tomorrow and this can't wait until Friday so, if I'm happy to be induced, it'll have to be today. DH can't stay until I'm in labour so I'm alone. It's now almost midnight and I still haven't even been looked at - no sweep, no one checking if I'm at all naturally dilated, no CTG to check the baby, no one has talked me through anything (I've literally just been told "induction" and no further information). Nothing since they said they want to induce. I'm concerned that I'll be absolutely exhausted by the time I actually have the baby because I'll have been up all night waiting to be induced. I can't go to sleep, I haven't been provided with a pillow or blankets yet or anything. I don't want to be a nag or a pain but I'm feeling really unsure at the moment. Is this normal? I'd just assumed inductions all happened in the day time?

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ShaneTwane · 20/07/2022 23:54

Bumping for you op. Good luck and hopefully the ball is rolling very soon!

Linnetbirds · 21/07/2022 00:06

This was me, OP! Unfortunately I found out the woman who shouts the loudest gets heard in this sort of situation. Be firm and persistent and demand answers - you shouldn’t just be left there. My induction felt completely disorganised and it took two days, but DD was delivered safely and the care we had was great in the end once things got going. Good luck and stay strong - you can do this x

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 00:30

So, I've just seen the doctor (a different one from earlier today) and they've said they don't want to induce and that they want to induce in a week's time...but they want me to stay in the hospital until then and be monitored every six hours. Sounds like absolute torture to be honest, I just want to cry. Why the hell am I here?

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 00:33

I have a DS already, I can't just fucking hang around in hospital for a week for no reason.

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hellosunshineagainx · 21/07/2022 00:34

How many weeks are you? They might want to wait a week for baby to develop better lung function/development but they are worried so want to keep monitoring. You could ask if you can be monitored as an out patient but would be a lot of back and forth for you to go four times a day! Depends how close you are to the hospital

Zapx · 21/07/2022 00:35

How many weeks are you? Is baby in a good position?

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 00:38

I'm 38 weeks - I live two hours away from the hospital (which is why being stuck here would be horrendous because I'd be completely away from DH and DS). We spent all afternoon trying to sort out childcare for the next few days for DS (when they said we couldn't wait) and now they've done a full 180 and said it must wait.

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 00:38

Baby is head down but I don't know anything else about her position.

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bumbledeedum · 21/07/2022 00:46

As PP's have said, you need to push for more information. Seems a bit odd they've chopped and changed and are concerned enough to want you to stay in but haven't explained why or why wait if there's reason for concern

Vikinga · 21/07/2022 00:47

Hi op. I understand how infuriating it may be but a couple of weeks is nothing if it means you and the baby being safe.

I spent 8 weeks in hospital pregnant with my first. Nothing bad happened but if it had, then we could both have died.

38 weeks is ok but not full term yet so understand they prefer to keep the baby in as long as possible but they also want to monitor you in case they need to deliver the baby soon. They may also give you steroid injections to mature the lungs?

EvilEdna1 · 21/07/2022 00:57

How do you feel about caesarean birth? You could say to them, that if they feel there is a real risk you would like a caesarean. To be honest unless the baby is ready to be born an induction is likely to lead to a long drawn out labour followed by a caesarean anyway.

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 01:37

DH phoned the ward and spoke to the doctor - there weren't any midwives around to ask anything to. The doctor told DH that in order to be induced before 39 weeks, they need a consultant to sign off and then there isn't a consultant here. So, the consultant will see me tomorrow and then decide whether to sign off or wait - and that, basically, they'll keep deciding whether to sign off or wait until 39 weeks when they'll induce regardless...

I definitely don't want to ask for a c-section.

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Marvellousmadness · 21/07/2022 02:56

Get a c section. Or demand to be induced today.

Danikm151 · 21/07/2022 03:05

My induction didn’t actually start until midnight. I’d been there since 6.
i was booked in for that day but they were in no rush and had to wait for a bed to be ready. Then I was monitored every 4 hours- got barely any sleep and labour started 24 hours later

JuneOsborne · 21/07/2022 03:17

If they want to induce you or monitor you/baby that closely, they're clearly concerned.

As much as it's shit, I'd hang on in there. You'll get more information tomorrow and everything will be clearer in the light of day.

I'd be asking for pillows and a way to get comfy, try and get a couple of hours of sleep for now and see what they say tomorrow.

And a monitor for the movements. I'd want to be hooked up to a monitor.

Hope it's nothing, but I think you're in the right place.

confidentwoman · 21/07/2022 03:19

This was exactly me. After 3 days of trying to get things going I decided to go against doctors advice and leave and wait for things to start naturally. My DS was born a week later no epidural and a smooth ish labour. If I had let them intervene I would most likely have a c section scar, when the baby isn't ready they're just simply not ready

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 00:30

So, I've just seen the doctor (a different one from earlier today) and they've said they don't want to induce and that they want to induce in a week's time...but they want me to stay in the hospital until then and be monitored every six hours. Sounds like absolute torture to be honest, I just want to cry. Why the hell am I here?

You're there because they don't want any law suits in case they let you go and something is their fault because something happened when they were already aware of your concern. I'd just go home tbh

Nat6999 · 21/07/2022 03:34

It's not a prison, why not ask if you can just come in to be monitored every other day? If they were that worried baby would have been born by now.

heynow86 · 21/07/2022 04:06

Sorry you're going through this op. I was in the same position as you a year ago. Had a DS at home and was in hospital for a week before baby was born. Getting 0 sleep
It's so hard isn't it. But you'll get through it
Lots of hugs x

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BabyIncomingg · 21/07/2022 06:48

Thanks everyone - a lot of mixed advice here. I got a few hours sleep and now just waiting again...not sure what I'm waiting for.

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OwlinaTree · 21/07/2022 06:54

I hope you get some answers today op. Don't reject a section, a planned one has a good healing/recovery rate. I had my children at 38 weeks by section and they were fine.

ShirleyPhallus · 21/07/2022 06:54

Sorry OP, this sounds awful. Hopefully you’ll get some answers today but I agree with everyone, ask if coming back for daily monitoring would be possible or even an induction at home (ie they insert the pessary then let you go home to labour)

DashboardConfessional · 21/07/2022 07:02

I'm not necessarily recommending this but the only way I got any attention/monitoring/info on an antenatal ward (granted my waters had broken, with no movements) was to say the movements had reduced. It's a good job I did as I was actually 4cm and DS was born pretty suddenly via a precipitous birth. Otherwise they will try and leave you for 6-8 hours at a time. It wasn't even that busy up there - 4 patients, but everyone was just down on the labour ward.

DashboardConfessional · 21/07/2022 07:04

I mean no contractions, not no movements, sorry!

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