Ok to take son on holiday? Daughter doesn't want to go.

[Mummybear888]

My friends are going on holiday to Italy for 4 nights with their young kids and have invited my family along.

My son (4 years old) wants to go but my daughter (7 yo) wants to stay in England with DH (DH doesn't want to go, as he doesn't like beach holidays). DH said he will take her to Legoland instead.

I haven't booked anything yet, as I am feeling guilty just taking one kid away, even though she will be going to Legoland.

How does the four-year-old even know he wants to go abroad though?

kids at that age don't know what they want. don't give them a choice.

why not all stay in the UK and find something nice to do as a family?

Sounds fine to me - each child gets some one-to-one parent time. Why not?

Kids may not know what they want, but in this case the DH doesn't want a beach holiday and I'm guessing the OP would. So it might be a win-win for them.

We've always done separate holidays with our dc. It means they get some precious 1 on 1 time with both of us....go.for.it. And do it without feeling guilty.

I wouldn’t leave her behind personally. She’s only 7.

If everyone is happy then yes , though I do think a family holiday all together would be nice .

It's only 4 nights - are you having a family holiday with all 4 of you as well, OP?

I did a four day break with just my son over February half term. My daughter really didn’t want to go but she encouraged me to go as she knew I’d been wanting to go to this place for years. All worked out fine. She stayed with their dad. My son is 12 and my dd is 14.

Sounds absolutely perfect…enjoy!

Thanks everyone!
FYI, in addition to the above holiday, we will also be going away as a family this summer

it won’t be that your 7 year old doesn’t want to go a abroad

ots that she wants to stay wi try b her dad and go to legoland

people always read so much in to young children when vast majority of the time- the reasoning is very very simple and usually involves a treat

i am going to take a punt that your marriage with DH isn’t in a healthy state atm?

Ah just seen on your other thread that you are separated from your husband but still living together
this is probably very relevant to your daughter’s stance

I'd go! Why not? You're having a holiday anyway and your daughter gets a treat too.

She's seven , she does not get to decide. Take her along and she can still go to Legoland another time as a family.

I don't see the issue with both children having separate holidays with each parent.

I'm an only chick but when I was younger I often went abroad with one parent while the other stayed home and worked. I don't really see this any different. You get quality time with DS and DD gets some time with her dad.

Op as you and your husband are divorcing - separate holidays are likely to be common place going forward. So just go with the flow this first time