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AIBU?

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Aibu to demand gp helps granddaughter ?

23 replies

Gonnabegrandma · 20/07/2022 22:08

My darling granddaughter is only 5 weeks old and since birth has had problems feeding . We have changed her milk to Sma reflux milk on drs advise . She continued being sick so they have now put her on Gaveston but she is soo unhappy feeding . She shrieks when feeding seems to get a sore tummy
. She is very windy in her nappy but is now only pooing every other day . A 4 oz bottle takes about 2 hours to feed between inconsolable crying . . getting her ti burp has been tricky from day one infacol seemed to help but dr said don’t use it .
So everyone what can we do ? Any ideas what is causing this problem ? I just want my little granddaughter to be a happy baby but she is miserable most of the time . We share her care as mum and dad live with us and I’ve had 4 children and never had these types of problems .

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himyname · 20/07/2022 22:15

Has it been suggested that DGD may have dairy intolerance? Perhaps your daughter could raise with the HV or GP. My youngest had similar problems and it was cause by this. Once we changed to prescription milk things were much better.

IDontDrinkTea · 20/07/2022 22:16

Sounds like cmpa - she needs a gp to prescribe dairy free formula

Nomad916 · 20/07/2022 22:17

Dairy free formula on prescription & Omeprazole tablets dissolved in water

paulhollywoodshairgel · 20/07/2022 22:17

Just a bit of burping advice. When mine were tiny they were really hard to wind. I was shown how to put him on his tummy across my knees and gently jiggle my knees up and down while rubbing his back. It used to bring out some monster wind. Both mine also had colic. We used colief and gripe water. Also teats that reduce air flow. Hope things get better ❤️‍🩹

BakedTattie · 20/07/2022 22:18

cmpa. Both my kids had it. Get in there now and ask for dairy free formula. Or If mum is bf, she will have to go diary free.

my kids are 6 and 8 and still have a bad allergy to milk based raw diary.

Flossieskeeper · 20/07/2022 22:19

From experience of having one who fed like that then there’s not a lot you can do apart from offer support to parents and don’t interfere or criticise.
it eventually passes 6 months later.

sil had 6dc and thought she was world expert on all things kids and liked to offer opinions freely Oh how I’m laughing now there is dgc that are somewhat awkward in the baby stage. Don’t be like sil.

HotPenguin · 20/07/2022 22:26

My son was like this, he had a tongue tie which the hospital had missed. It was picked up by a breast feeding counsellor. He improved a lot after having the tongue tie removed but was still difficult to feed. When he was older we found out he was dairy intolerant. I found that GPs didn't know a lot about baby feeding and only took it seriously unless the baby was losing weight. I would suggest speaking to the health visitor and a breast feeding counsellor - even if the baby isn't breastfeeding, the counsellor should be able to check for tongue tie.

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 20/07/2022 22:30

Agree it sounds like cows milk protein. Need to push the GP/ Health visitor more for a referral and prescription milk. They might need to try a few to find one which will help. I had to avoid all milk and soya when feeding them and we had to introduce milk really slowly, however they all drink it now.

Slimemonster · 20/07/2022 22:38

I'd suspect tongue tie, but don't let the GP fob you off, go to a breastfeeding/lactation consultant for proper diagnosis and correction.

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Gonnabegrandma · 20/07/2022 23:05

Flossieskeeper · 20/07/2022 22:19

From experience of having one who fed like that then there’s not a lot you can do apart from offer support to parents and don’t interfere or criticise.
it eventually passes 6 months later.

Oh gosh no I never tell them what to do !! I hate that kind of b’being helpful ‘ her parents are brilliant I am so very proud of them both . I am as flummoxed by these problems as they are . I do sometimes offer ideas and they decide what they want to do . I just want to make the gp see that this is not normal

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Gonnabegrandma · 20/07/2022 23:10

Oh yes tongue tie was something I mention to her parents today …. But I had no idea of sympathy!!! Off to look at dr Google 🤗
tyank you all so much for all the advise . As a new grandma I don’t think our little one is how she should be and reading all your replies has confirmed to me I’m not being paranoid . We will be ringing the gp in the morning and not being fobbed off again . Hospital referral is what she needs bless her .

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Dailyfailcanfeckoff · 20/07/2022 23:17

Gonnabegrandma · 20/07/2022 23:05

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Apologies- I have completely misread your post and thought you meant grandparent should help dgd not realising you meant the dr!

hopefully it’s something fixable - it wasn’t with ds - he was slightly prem so we just had to ride it out. Hope you dgd gets sorted .

SunflowerGardens · 20/07/2022 23:18

CMPA and reflux likely, ask for a trial of hypoallergenic formula and a different reflux medication.

RoundaboutRacer · 20/07/2022 23:24

In the kindest way OP.

Surely this is her parents job to sort.

Your use of "our little one" set my alarms bells ringing for the babies parents.

Don't be "that grandma"

You've had your turn.

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 21/07/2022 05:28

RoundaboutRacer · 20/07/2022 23:24

In the kindest way OP.

Surely this is her parents job to sort.

Your use of "our little one" set my alarms bells ringing for the babies parents.

Don't be "that grandma"

You've had your turn.

The baby and parents live with the OP, that is implying a level of involvement beyond seeing the baby occasionally. The OP has four children herself. She probably has a fairly good baselevel of what is to be expected and might be able to advocate. Sometimes new parents need that support.

Through a mixture of our naivety and drs fobbing us off, our first born was not diagnosed for almost a year (she was ebf but I drank milk). We just assumed that crying a lot and smelly nappies went with the territory and we had just got unlucky in the baby crying/ sleeping lottery. We had no frame of reference, the OP does.

Sometimes videoing them can help to show the dr that this is not just the parent complaining that their baby cries a bit. Babies always seem to be happy and smiling for the doctor even if they have made the last 24hrs a living hell. The doctors have said it is useful because it gives them a chance to see what we are seeing as parents.

If it is the cows milk protein we found that the first level of formula wasn't enough, they had to have neocate in which the protien was entirely broken down so if she improves a bit but isn't fully better then do go back. Be aware of it in any future children as all of mine had it. Good luck with finding out what is wrong.

JenniferBarkley · 21/07/2022 10:07

YANBU OP. Opened this thread last night and forgot about it. It can be a struggle to get GPs to realise you're not a naive first time parent adjusting to normal baby crying. I found I really needed to stress that I wasn't worrying about laundry or my own sleep, that my baby was clearly in pain.

I agree it should be her parents advocating for her, but it sounds like you'll do a great job of empowering them to do that.

hesttreat · 21/07/2022 10:36

RoundaboutRacer · 20/07/2022 23:24

In the kindest way OP.

Surely this is her parents job to sort.

Your use of "our little one" set my alarms bells ringing for the babies parents.

Don't be "that grandma"

You've had your turn.

Not all parents are dismissive of their own parents help! I think it's clear from the post the the DPs are a welcome involvement!

Alarm bells?? FFS!

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Gonnabegrandma · 21/07/2022 13:15

😁my granddaughters parents are the most important people in her world !! As my son and his partner live with us and other family members we are all involved in her care !!! I didn’t think that was weird . But her parents have the first and last day in their child’s care . We only take over when asked and when they are tired . We all support the fabulous job they are doing and support them not take over . So I hope everyone is happy now !!!!
she is at the hospital now having been sent by the gp this morning so hopefully they can help dgd to feel better

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Holly60 · 21/07/2022 13:18

You sound like a lovely, caring granny. I'm glad little one is being seen at the hospital

Mimi1980 · 21/07/2022 13:23

Hope dgd gets the help she needs op.

justasking111 · 21/07/2022 13:37

For those that think it's not OP place in some circles it's recognised it takes a village to raise a child. However I appreciate that so many families are far flung.

I breast fed so dodged a bullet I think. But being sensitive to bottled milk isn't a rare thing. Health visitor perhaps??

JenniferBarkley · 21/07/2022 14:02

I breast fed so dodged a bullet I think.

Nothing to do with breastfeeding. My reflux baby described above was ebf, and several friends ended up having to go dairy and soy free due to their babies' allergies. Not a bf Vs FF thing, some babies just have more difficulties than others.

AperolWhore · 21/07/2022 14:08

You need to take her to a cranial osteopath, they are miracle workers. She could have a missed tongue or lip tie, lock jaw or issues with her nervous system from labour. All of these things are missed by the hospital team and gps more than they are spotted.

you could also swap her to SMA WSOY Formula which is a fully dairy free formal not just reduced lactose like the GP describes.

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