To ask what would you do? Dating related.

[Flyhighbutterfly]

Hi everyone

I am beyond frustrated now and the whole thing is just exhausting. We have been seeing each other for around 3 months. I feel as though it’s me making all the effort now and he doesn’t seem keen any more. He gives one word replies, sometimes ignores me, won’t plan things. but when I question things he gets really annoyed about me bringing it up. Tells me everything is fine, he’s still interested etc yet still doesn’t put any effort in and does nothing else to reassure me.

What would would you do?

Dump him and start listening to Female Dating Strategy podcast. It shouldn't be exhausting at 3 months. Why bother?

I think you have 3 choices here. You can either ask him outright if everything is OK and ask him to explain his texting behaviour or you can call it a day and tell him so, or you can carry on as if nothing unusual is happening. If it was me in this situation I would choose option 1 or 2. Good luck

Bin him.

life is way too short for that.

Ditch - his words are not matching his actions. Actions trumps words - words should merely be a commentary or backup to the actions.

Life is too short - there are better options out there.

Thanks for this recommendation.

Love this. Will be using it!!!

Oh God, dump him, life is far too short to be with a knobhead.

It's not working. At 3 months in it shouldn't be like this.

This should be a wonderful, almost idyllic time in a new relationship. And if this was happening in a well established stable relationship then I'd seriously question even then if there was a future.

Dump him! Don’t put up with that crap.

As to what i would do, i don't think this warrants a big chat, you tried that, just let him know you're moving on and then do so.

He's told you how he expects to treat you. Ignoring, neglecting, lying about it and getting angry when you discuss it.

The only question is why are you even considering putting up with it?

You've tried talking. If at 3 months he's showing no enthusiasm re doing things with you or communicating then I'd move on.

Ditch him. I don't know what is worse, the lazy attitude or the gaslighting you over it.

Bleeeeuurrggh, honestly, just ignore him and move on it's the very least he deserves. I've been with and know men like this, as soon as you don't give them the time of day, they soon start sniffing round and giving you their full attention, and when they do this you know they're not interested

Use my tried and tested strategy and pull away completely. Don't text first, don't question him, don't give a shit basically or pretend you don't and get busy meeting friends or whatever! By the time he gets in touch(which he will) the tables will be turned and by that time you will have probably moved on anyway 😁 never fails!! It's not a game either, it's just more empowering this way and a bigger fuck you. Early days are push and pull whether we like it or not and don't give guys the upper hand. Don't block either, that will look like you give a shit x

I agree with @Holly763 Just stop contacting him. I wouldn't even dignity him witn blocking or actually declaring you've dumped him.

What benefit are you getting out of this situation?

I would actually just tell him you’re sorry but you’re not feeling it any more and wish him the best. At least you get to finish it before him without further game playing

It shouldn't be this hard 3 months in. Move on.