Strategic incompetence

[Animallover87]

On holiday abroad. Yesterday we ran out of Sun cream. In shopping centre, I needed the loo so I asked DH to get sun cream and I'd meet him back outside the shop in 5 mins.

Just sat down on loo and got a text - 'i don't know what factor to get. You'll need to come and help me."

I replied with " that's strategic incompetence."

Lo and behold he manages to get factor 30 (what I wanted) for our pale British skin.

I am so determined not to fall into the trap of doing everything or carrying the mental load - we don't even have kids yet!

So I've started pointing it out anytime it happens! Can anyone relate?

I am on the total other side of this- in the process of separating. STBX DH's strategic incompetence has just become worse and worse and worse. It's so unattractive and I cannot wait to be free!

I know so many (mostly men) who use SI to get out of stuff.
The worst is the man who can fit a kitchen, take apart your washing machine and put it back together but cannot cook himself anything or wash his own clothes.

In my case, I thought I'd stamped this nonsense out early (DH and I have been together since we were teens) but not in our mid 30s it's been creeping back in.

I tend to act as stupid as he is. I say "I don't know" and "practise makes perfect, you'll have to do it again" a lot and occasionally shout at him to stop pretending to be stupid - the last one seems to have done the trick and he's improved dramatically.