last night my partner made a comment i don't think was maliciously intended but made me feel quite shit.
i've struggled with an eating disorder for a very long time, which he is well aware of. my eating disorder had calmed down significantly since entering my 20s but post baby, i've been a little self conscious and noticing i've been slipping into old habits of calorie counting and restricting. (which i'm working on, and well aware that it's a problem). i'm super grateful that i was able to have our baby, and wouldn't change him for the world, so try not let the pregnancy weight gain affect me too much. i don't regret my baby, or feel ashamed of the weight gain i just now notice i'm desperate to get the weight off but that's perhaps the eating disorder talking.
i've been trying to ignore that little voice, and eat in a healthier way, so i can still drop the weight but without restriction or being consumed by the caloric intake i'm having.
it's been hot in the uk, and heat just puts everyone off food, right? i didn't really manage to eat much and once it started to cool i really fancied a milkshake, it must've been perhaps 10pm and he decided to make the comment "isn't that high in calories at this time".
i know he didn't mean it maliciously and he's very set on eating too much or anything heavy before bed, but i think the comment was highly unnecessary and just made me feel horrid. i ended up having the milkshake anyways and after a few sips i felt ashamed, and disguised it with "it doesn't taste very nice"
but i'm thinking i should call him out on his comment, so AIBU to do so? i think he just needs to work on the things he says without thinking. how do i address this without it seeming like i'm attacking him?