Husband job offer

[PettyMare]

Aibu to not want Husband to take a new job for 4k less than his current job?
He was interviewed for a new role (head hunted so didn't apply as such) salary discussions were around 50k which would be a pay rise, but they've come back today with an offer of 40k with an annual bonus of 5k at the end of the year.

With both our salaries we're comfortable, this was the first year in many where we've had an overseas holiday, but with the cost of living squeeze I just don't think ge should even consider a drop like that. I guess with bonus included, his salary for the year would break even but surely bonuses are extra and not considered part of the basic salary package?

Conversely, op could take on some extra shifts, and then there wouldn’t be a thread about drop in monies🙄 @OooErr

I don’t see why he’d do this. It’s mad.

Why should she, to allow her husband to get a new job with zero extra benefit to him or anyone else? There’s nothing wrong with his current one if you read the OP’s latest update.

To be lowballed like that is an insult. They want to see how weak he is, so he will be unlikely to get a raise whilst he's there as they will date him down as willing to accept anything.

He needs to see that he's being insulted and walk away.

My thoughts too obviously more to it

Why on earth would she do that?

Don't get your argument @Zone2NorthLondon
Two people work. Both earn money. Both feel work is okay. One then gets offered a job (which he wasn't looking for) for less money than they earn currently.
Why would anyone move under those conditions ?

The Op has said he isn't unhappy where he is.
The OP has said this isn't a 'training wage' whilst moving to a long sought after career
The OP hasn't said he hates - or even dislikes his job

there is no logical reason to move to a similar job for a lower wage.
Why on earth would you think the OP should work overtime every week when there is no reason that the dh needs or wants to move? It doesn't make sense.

Why on earth would he do this? For all the reasons @WinterMusings listed...It would be really really odd unless hes shagged a work colleague and needs to leave

Absolutely not......if they want him they need to pay....so his wage plus the 5k plus bonus .....no point moving unless really good progression or other grest benefits..

why?to support her partner, to be part of a combined unit who accommodate each other needs inc change and managing finances. That’s what partners do

Counter back to the company and say 50k or no thanks, he would be crazy to take it at a loss.

OP you've not said why your dh is even considering it? It also seems very poor form from headhunter to allow interviews to go ahead when the salary doesn't align.

£10k drop is pretty significant. Nothing about this job offer seems appealing. What are we missing??

Did you miss the part where OP works full-time already?? There's being supportive, and there's being taken for a mug ffs

Didn’t miss a trick,did you?

🙄 FFS …go to bed

Does he just feel obligated because someone wants him? Ego kind of thing? If so, watch out if a woman ever takes interest, even one who is less pretty and offers nothing except wanting him!

You don't take headhunted roles in these circs. If you are genuinely head hunted you will be on a min 25% uplift. Also look at the headhunter....I'm regularly headhunted. Usually Exec recruitment but for eg, one reached out last week and had been in recruitment 2 months. Very naive contacting Exec level when your background is very lightweight

It might mean that the ex colleague who recommended him gets a bonus if he accepts the job and stays.

might be worth more to the ex colleague than your DH, though.

Would you mind me PM-ing questions on how exec recruitment works? Curious.

So he goes back to them and says sorry 50k plus bonus or it's a no 🤷‍♀️

If he’s not that bothered, then right away he loses all the accrued years’ service at the current place (in terms of potential redundancy). If no progression, not better pay and not a nicer job/people why risk it? I’d ask them for £5k more than his current salary (plus bonus), ensuring that at next salary review he will be included and see what they come back with. You don’t get headhunted for less, unless there’s other positives that more than make up for it.

Eh, I don’t get this. Just because he’s had an offer doesn’t mean he has to do it.

£55k or I’m sitting tight.

Does he want to accept this new job?!

Surely with headhunting-they search out potential employees who they really want and then entice them to leave where they are. Offering them something more shit than what they’re currently on seems rather bizarre!!

He would be crazy to take that job - why take a pay cut for loss of employment continuity and less money? No way.

best decline the offer. Thank them for their interest but explain that you couldn’t consider a salary below the current one.