DH and I have been together for over 20 years, married for 12. We have 1 DD aged 9 and I've accidently fallen pregnant at 41. It isn't the right thing for us and I am having an abortion.
I always wanted another child after my first but having DD was emotionally difficult for both of us and DH said he couldn't go through it again. Eventually, I came to terms with that. Concentrated on my career and we got a dog. I went to counselling to help me deal with it. He didn't.
Fast foward and I've stupidly messed up my pill and got pregnant, obviously DH has played a part in this but he was assuming I was managing my contraception properly.
I found out in the middle of the night after suddenly waking up and realising my boobs were sore and I had dreadful thrush and finding a pregnancy test in the back of the cupboard. We were in separate beds so I told him in the morning. His first reaction was of anger, and the first thing he said was "You're not telling anyone".
This has been extremely upsetting for me as I always wanted that second child although we've talked about it a bit today I can tell he just wants it over and done with. I know I am going to want to process this and the thought of not being able to talk to a close friend in confidence is unbearable.
So AIBU to want to talk about it?
I think his motivation is one of shame. Which causes me more upset as I am ashamed too. I feel so stupid for getting my pill mixed up and not being careful. The thought of going through this procedure effectively alone is filling me with dread.