9 y.o. girl screaming next door but one - is this normal?

[Fancydancer1934]

What it says really - nine year old girl screams at the top of her voice when arguing/is annoyed by older brother. Proper full on screaming? I'm sure my girl didn't do that - parents don't seem to notice it or tell her to stop. Am I making something out of nothing?

Maybe they are telling her to stop, you just can’t hear it?

Sone kids are loud. You will no doubt have people telling you to call 999, but really this is nothing to worry about IMO. Girl gets annoyed by brother in summer holidays. Big deal.

Are you wanting to raise it with the neighbours, report it? What’s your plan?

What is the screaming? Shouting at him,crying, hysterical screeching etc?

Does she sound angry/frustrated or upset/in pain/afraid/asking for help?

it could be that she has additional needs, and is not dod at regulating her emotions?

Or the child could be suffering abuse... please don't assume. Phone 101 and report . A welfare check will be made ... if all ok then nothing will happen but you may just save a life !

My eight year old does this when her brother drives her crazy. We try to stop her but she wears herself out after a minute or two. How long is she screaming for?

Depends on the child. It's normal for my 9-uear old but she is very emotional and highly-strung. Always has been. The tantrums used to be epic and could last for a couple of hours so the neighbours round here must be used to her, although I do always try to quieten her down. If you heard shouts that sounded like she was being hurt I would be concerned but if she's just yelling at her brother because he's annoying her I don't think it's anything to worry about.

Another one with a 9yo screamer 🤦🏽‍♀️ Like a pp, she’s always struggled to regulate her emotions (huge tantrums as a preschooler).

One of my twin girls does this, she can have a screaming meltdown down for half an hour, it’s much less frequent then it used to be thankfully. Obviously we try calm her down but our neighbours wouldn’t hear us doing this.

Oh for goodness sake, calling the police for a shouty child arguing with her brother?! Christ on a bike. No wonder the police are stretched to capacity.

Most people here have it right.

I've got a very shouty 8 yo who has trouble regulating her emotions currently. Also siblings wind each other up.

It's probably a phase and it'll pass or the child has additional needs. It'll be hard enough for the parent to cope as it is without the fuzz turning up on the doorstep.

DD11 is a screamer furniture overturner hitter slapper kicker and slams and bangs everything. Very frequently. Despite our very best (and my more than modest expertise with this sort of thing) efforts to prevent it. She's autistic and has adhd. We try not to shout or raise our voices but sometimes, specially this week so far, it's been futile. I live in permanent worry SS will turn up on our doorstep. She's absolutely fine, she just can't cope with insert anything.

I’m wasn’t ‘normal’ a few years ago, but generally children’s behaviour has deteriorated in the last few years and 8,9 and 10 year olds throwing tantrums like toddlers because they can’t regulate their emotions is becoming increasingly common. So I suppose it’s not usual as such, no.

have a neighbour like this, allowed to shout and swear at her parents, and constantly having tantrums. We're moving because of it - can't even sit in our front room without having to hear her kick off

Loads of families have been through a really tough time over the past couple of years. Give them a break. Two of my close neighbours have had breakdowns over the past 12 months. I would be concerned rather than judging but that’s it.

Thanks for your responses.

First of all I'm not judging - it just doesn't seem like "normal behaviour" but thats just my opinion. It's not constant as in continues for several minutes but is several times daily and is mostly one to three high pitched LONG shrieks then crying. I did used to hear the mum intervene bit haven't for a while.

I don't have a "plan" as a pp asked - I'm torn tho between seeing if everything is ok or just keeping out of it.

Fucking hell, I’d we report to 101 every time a child screamed at their sibling the police would be inundated. What a ridiculous suggestion. We’ve got to stop this “it couldn’t hurt to report” attitude. It does

Do you have kids yourself OP?

My son has autism and has daily meltdowns much worse than this, and often furniture and the walls are smashed. Thank god we've got understanding neighbours.