To just not be able to stand the arguing anymore!

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My husband two eldest DC live with us 50:50 and I just can't stand it when they stay anymore. They are very close in age and the same sex (both early teens) and they just argue CONSTANTLY.

I'm so sick of it. I've reached the point where I just completely ignore it now if fights break out. If DH is upstairs or elsewhere I'll just leave them to it because I'm just done dealing with pathetic arguments about one touching or breathing on the other. It even gets physical sometimes.

Nothing about when they are with us is enjoyable. Every time we go somewhere it's tainted because of fighting or constant squabbling even down to 'X got one more sweet than I did'.

We've had the odd occasion like a sleepover where we've just ended up with one and it's absolute bliss, like the old days.

Maybe it's just normal sibling stuff (mine are only young so I'm sure I have this to come) but I just needed a rant after listening to another morning of it.

AIBU to just leave absolutely everything to DH from now on because I'm so DONE. I honestly just want to go out with our DC by ourselves now rather than all together on weekends and stuff.

Fwiw I'm usually a very loving and less frazzled step mother but they just seem to be at a very testing age 🙃

How old are they? Is your husband not bothered by their behaviour? It sounds awful and not a good environment for your young children either. If they won’t listen to you and/or you just can’t be arsed trying to manage them then the only answer is for him to supervise them constantly. Maybe then he’ll try and get a handle on it.

I’ve got siblings and teen step kids and a young one of my own. A certain degree of arguing is normal but not to the extent it’s dominating every day.

They are 11 & 13.

It's not always really serious arguments but there just seems to be constant squabbling over stupid stuff going on, often it can end with a hit or something like that. We can't go for a day out or just have one day where we don't have to tell them off for it.