Hello
my flatmate (a close friend) has a good friend with whom I will admit I am not the number one fan of. If anything I think it is a personality clash with her.
we live close to them, her friend doesn’t work or study (no kids etc) and her fiancé pays for everything.
In contrast we both work and study. Whilst this is not the issue the friend is incredibly judgemental if our house isn’t as tidy as hers is, does tiredg (me) not tidy etc etc.
My friend has been friends with her since childhood and is kind of stuck with her, yet does consider her a good friend which I am trying to respect. I suppose her friend ignoring her for weeks and using her shouldn’t be my concern.
The friend regularly comes round and overstays her welcome - staying for days and days (once 7 days) when both of us are working, my friend feels unable to get rid of her when she overstays. The friend has a dog and cat which she expects my friend to watch very often. Me and my flatmate have a hamster which although not the same can’t be left unattended for long periods
the friend is politically opposite to me (and to my friend). She complains about people who don’t work (ironic), people on benefits, hates the nhs with a passion (I work for the nhs), is an anti vaxxer ( I worked a pandemic), is anti choice - thinks abortions allow women to use them as contraception ( I am very pro choice). I am unable to discuss these topics as it gets too heated and she considers herself an expert from her Facebook research. She is also incredibly anti diet - I am eating healthy cutting out binge eating and have lost 2 stone, the friend considers me to be anorexic. (I am not - still a good bit overweight).
I seem to be having extreme anxiety about the friend which I can’t shift and whilst I know it’s probably me being unreasonable idk what to do.
obviously my friend can be friends with whoever she wants but the overstaying welcome, being ?deliberately pedantic / contrary and seeing her using my friend is getting to me. How do I reconcile with this? any advice appreciated.
I probably am being unreasonable but wish to be advised on it. Thanks