No longer want to attend wedding

[Weddingchangemoney]

Have been invited and RSVP’d yes to a wedding taking place end of September. Have confirmed our attendance.

The wedding is overseas and will cost thousands to attend. I knew that and was happy to say yes.

I am now pregnant and am panicking about money and don’t think I can really justify £2k plus to attend a wedding.

We aren’t super close to the couple (DH has only met them twice) and I don’t seem them often but they made the effort to come to ours during high covid levels and they are so lovely and likeable.

I don’t want to share that I’m pregnant so early but want to give them as much notice as possible.

Do you think it’s even acceptable to drop out so close to the wedding? This wedding a huge deal to her, I feel terrible.

Did you ever really want to go if it is this September and you haven’t even made travel arrangements?

If you don’t want to spend the money then obviously don’t but you really need to apologise for messing them around.

The only way you can do it without looking like a dick is to explain your pregnant and don’t want to fly tbh

any other excuse wouldn’t sound great and I’d be surprised you’ve left It so late to book accommodation tbh if you’d already paid for it what would you do then?

You have to let them know now and that you’re pregnant but keeping it quiet.

Thanks all - I will explain and of course offer to cover the costs of our headcount / food