Cheating

[Tilly8875]

If your partner has been on live sex web cams would you consider it cheating?

Instant deal breaker on both

1. cheating
2. treating you like you are stupid

This is when you leave. As a PP says, raise the bar, have some self-respect, and ditch the idiot.

The lying to your face is almost worse.

He knows he's done it.

The ship has sailed OP. Don't bother trying to rationalise it or tie yourself up in knots getting answers to your questions or getting an apology or a justification from him, its a massive waste of your time and energies.

You need to start getting used to the idea that its over. Fake it until you make it etc.

Focus on getting the hell out of dodge. Have you got your own money? Do you work?

I'm not going to let this overwhelm me, I've been through worse heartbreak than this.
Yes, I've got a great job and totally self sufficient and my family are amazing.
Still hurts though.
Thank you xx

Of course it hurts. That's totally normal and understandable.

Allow yourself to feel sad and to grieve. Be kind to yourself.

But don't allow him to gaslight you into thinking this is normal or acceptable behaviour or that you in any way deserve this. I guarantee you you deserve better and will feel happier away from him.

Yes that would be cheating for me and I would not be able to forgive. Totally crosses a line. Porn is bad but this is something else I couldn't ever trust him now

I don’t think it matters whether you call it cheating or not - it’s a practice which is disrespectful to you and other women, costs money and which you don’t like. You are entitled to set your own boundaries and he has clearly overstepped them so either tell him this must not happen again and make sure it doesn’t or LTB.