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in expecting my 12 week old to have a nap in the day?

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fingerwoman · 17/01/2008 20:32

20 mins max. that's all we've managed today.
he and I had a little chat today, he thinks he doesn't need to sleep, I think he does.
I suggested this to him gently and he screamed at me then licked my face.

hmmm

I am bloody knackered lol

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Ispy · 17/01/2008 20:36

How's his night sleep?

cheshirekitty · 17/01/2008 20:36

Go and have a glass (very large one) of wine and things will feel better.

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fingerwoman · 17/01/2008 20:47

his nightsleep is so-so
usually every 2 hours, last night every hour.
and he didn't want to go back to bed after feeding either.
grrrr

dp making me a nice cup of tea
though think something stronger may be in order. he is screaming on my lap now

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aintnomountainhighenough · 17/01/2008 20:50

Yes my beautiful little DD was like that. She won in the end, hardly slept in the day however slept through reasonably early so I was happy really. Was tough though and yes the wine does help!

squimlet · 17/01/2008 20:52

i think your Lo is going through a growth spurt. the timing seems about right. Go with the flow and he will go back to sleeping normally soon. It will pass I promise

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fingerwoman · 17/01/2008 20:52

I wouldnt' mind so much if he slept for longer periods at night.
and if he wasn't so damned miserable because he's so tired lol

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bracingair · 17/01/2008 20:55

oh its exhausting when you don't get a break. my ds used to sneak naps during bf and in the pram outdoors only. But at 2 he does sleep most days, so there is hope!

squimlet · 17/01/2008 20:55

awwww ((hugs)) for you missus. I too had a child who had no concept of sleep. But that said he sleeps like a dream now.
how about having him in bed with you to make your life easier? is he BF or Bottle fed?

littleducks · 17/01/2008 20:59

lol, that was dd! she is now 20 months and has a nap and near on 12 hours every night, but there were some tears involved in learning to sleep! im not talking controlled crying, as most were mine! she didnt sleep in the car either and not great in buggy.

i wasnt a sleeper either, so i now realise what i put my mum through.

i'm not criticising you or saying this is what you are doing wrong but here is the list of mistakes i made maybe something will help:
baby gets overtired and then WONT sleep

baby not winded quite enough (dd rarely burped she farted) so wakes up after 20-30mins with wind

feeding to sleep but not giving a full enough feed as baby falls asleep half full (not quit sure how to fix that one still).

Good luck!

Where does baby sleep, when he does?

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fingerwoman · 17/01/2008 21:00

he ius breastfed, I am too scared to co-sleep though, if dp is out early then he come in with me.
we only have a standard double bed and I think I would be ok but scared that dp would smother him or something.
also (selfishly) not sure I want to go down that route in terms of having to get him back out of our bed later.

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pampam · 17/01/2008 21:07

My dd wouldn't nap in the day unless she was being held until she was about a year old. In the end I gave up trying to put her down and just sat with her on me while i watched tv/read a book as she slept.
She now will go down for an hour or so in the day and is getting better at sleeping though although she rarely makes it past 5am (she's 19months). It is getting better though gradually although how i'll cope if i can't put the next one down to nap i have no idea!

Agree that it might be growth spurt related too.
Hope things get better soon

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fingerwoman · 17/01/2008 21:09

he isn't great at sleeping on me. he is best in his crib upstairs, but not today.
you're probably right about the growth spurt though. I think he may also have thrush, but that's a whiole other thread lol

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phlossie · 17/01/2008 21:20

Hee hee - your post made me laugh, fingerwoman. Our babies are two of a kind! (Mine sucks my face, though...)

louloulouise · 18/01/2008 11:48

One word - babywearing - check out www.thebabywearer.com

get a sling woman - he'll sleep in the day, trust me!!

It's also very true that if they get enough sleep in the day, they'll generally be more settled and sleep well in the night. DS needed at least 3 hours in the day at that age and now at nearly 6 months has 2 hours, spread out over the day - but because I wear him in a sling I can still get stuff done while he sleeps and he has no problems settling himself at night.

Try it!

jellies · 18/01/2008 12:03

I resorted to a fisherprice swing
(ducks to avoid stinging glances)
He just wouldn't sleep in his cot during the day but will in the swing for an hour 10ish and 3ish... slept through the night then cause he's not overtired!
Worked for me! Its the best thing I bought!

squimlet · 18/01/2008 14:38

I am with louloulouise. DS has been in a sling since birth and its a godsend. settles them when they are cranky and you can get on. Plus no big pushchair to haul round when you want to go out quickly.
BUT you need the right sling. go for a mei tai or a wraparound for the best comfort and longevity

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fingerwoman · 18/01/2008 18:51

oh we do sling. had a coorie when he was little and have just got a lovely new moby which I love.
he doesn't really sleep in either of them though. bizarre child lol.
does mean I can get stuff done whilst holding him though which is a godsend

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fingerwoman · 18/01/2008 18:52

jellies, we have a swing too. he hates it

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