To be feeling upset

[Lonelylittleme]

so I’ve moved closer to my hometown, I’ve tried reconnecting with a few friends (most I’ve still spoken to/ met up with through the last 12 years of not living there).

I’ve been going through a really hard time recently (they aren’t aware of) and I’m aware my emotions are highly sensitive right now.

2 weeks ago the I made plans with someone was messaging throughout the day until it got to 4pm and they just stopped messaging me so I went and made other plans. They didn’t read my message till the next day but never got an explanation or anything.

they messaged me this week and I gave them another chance (obviously shouldn’t have) messaging all today, they said they would meet me once their friend had left theirs….I haven’t heard a thing since 5pm. I decided not to go out today because I have no data on my phone (we used to have each other’s numbers but I lost theirs last year). I’ve been ready since about 2pm, make up on, I was really excited.

im really upset, disappointed and lonely right now. I don’t understand how someone could do that to someone.

ive been here 7 months now and I have no friends and I’m so lonely, I just wanted to get out and socialise a bit, connect with people.

i know it’s my own fault for giving them a second chance and I probably shouldn’t be as upset as I am about it but I’m finding it really hard to be so isolated.

So sorry you're feeling like this. I definitely feel the same some days

I’m really annoyed at myself for allowing someone a chance to let me down. Maybe being isolated is better. I would have probably had a lovely day to myself if I hadn’t tried to make plans

Don't be lonely there are many people
On here to support you from a distance.

I'd go out, your ready to party, go party, you may find old friends or make new ones, take loads of photos and post them.
Don't let someone letting you down ruin your night.
I've done it where I have just sat at a bar made a brief note like "wow love your nails where did you get them done? " and bam your starting to make a conversations
People love to talk about themselves it's what they know so go out and start there bet you'll have a fab time and if you get fed up you can go home when you want because your in control 💪🏻💪🏻💪🏻

Hope you’re alright OP💐
Loneliness really is one of the most awful and isolating feelings. A lot people feel the same. It’s sadly so common in adulthood.

In future, I’d avoid getting yourself ready and excited for a catch up/meet up that hasn’t been given an official time.

Re: this particular person, communication doesn’t sound great. Are they normally like this? If so, I wouldn’t try again. Leave the ball in their court.

Are there any other friends you are close to? Im sure if some were aware of the issues going on with you then they’d be more than happy to catch up and support you.

When you’re going through a hard time the loneliness and rejection will feel worse - so I can totally empathise how you are feeling. It’s so upsetting. Putting yourself out there is hard. Really hard. But please don’t give up.

Are there any local Facebook groups that do meet ups? Could you join a club, gym? The Bumble app but for friendships?