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WWYD - DPs family staying for their vacation

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Cantbebotheredwithausername · 16/07/2022 19:59

We spent a few days with my DP's family in a town approximately 5 hours by car from where we live. Meanwhile his brother wanted to take his two teenage girls on vacation at our place until Monday. We arrived back home today (Saturday). I told my DP they can stay till Sunday, as I have to go to work Monday, and need a little quiet down-time before then. I love family-time, but I really need some me-time, or I get exhausted and stressed out. DP knows this, and accepted. We also have a 10 months old son, who doesn't quite sleep through the night, to take care of.

There had been a miscommunication, though, and DPs brother thought they could stay till Monday and planned on this. He is now talking about cutting their trip short by a day and driving home tomorrow. He seems fine with this, though his teenage girls definitely do not. They want to stay.

YABU - let them stay, it's just one night, you'll be fine

YANBU - you said till Sunday, and needing some space and quiet time in your own house before getting up and going to work is reasonable

Genuinely asking, as I still have time to change my original answer. My DP would like them to stay till Monday, but he will respect my wishes, as will his brother.

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Lastqueenofscotland2 · 16/07/2022 20:00

Honestly it’s a night added due to a communication breakdown. I’d just suck it up, and I hate hosting!

chipsandpeas · 16/07/2022 20:01

id let them stay but go to my bedroom for some me time on sunday night and leave DP to entertain them

Thehop · 16/07/2022 20:02

I’d suck up one night but be very clear in future

MadMadMadamMim · 16/07/2022 20:03

You want some peace and quiet before returning to work, that's reasonable enough. They have already had a free few days at your place. The teenage girls - who aren't looking after a non sleeping toddler and working - can suck it up, frankly.

Howabsolutelyfanfuckingtastic · 16/07/2022 20:03

I would still to them going home tomorrow if that's what suits you best.

Howabsolutelyfanfuckingtastic · 16/07/2022 20:04

Stick not still

Cantbebotheredwithausername · 17/07/2022 17:39

Thank you for votes and replies. I ended up asking my DP to ask his brother to stay till Monday. It turned out, however, that DPs brother had actually changed his mind and preferred driving home Sunday evening.

So I ended up getting some peace and quiet before going back to work without being an arse. Everyone wins.

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