Blimey the pressure to get married!!

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girlfriend44 · 16/07/2022 13:52

Cousin has just got married been with boyfriend about 10 years. On the wedding cake it said finally how weird is that!! A few comments were banded around as well saying at long last etc.

What is the pressure to get married?

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OooErr · 16/07/2022 22:34

Wishyfishy · 16/07/2022 22:30

I would imagine that it’s something they are more conscious of than other people.. no one else would have written that on the cake.

A close friend got married after 10 years and she was extremely aware of how long it had been and prior to getting engaged used to say a lot that people would start to call her names along the lines of “Waity Katy” etc. The thing is, no one thought that. They got together as teenagers so actually getting married 2-3 years into their relationship would have been incredibly young.

I think length of courtship correlates often by age of couple. A couple getting together at 30 and marrying at 40 would be unusual I suppose but so equally would be getting together at 18 and marrying at 20.

Is your friend The Duchess of Cambridge by any chance...?
Getting together at 16, married by 26 is still very young actually by today's standards! Even if it HAD been 10 years...

Wishyfishy · 16/07/2022 22:35

InChocolateWeTrust · 16/07/2022 14:48

I guess I am unusual though in that I know very few divorced people!!

Don’t they say that divorce is often “catching”? So in a lot of social circles you’ll tend to know very few or a lot and less likely to know somewhere in between.

I know of a handful of people who are divorced and that includes some very vague acquaintances- teacher of an extra curricular that my child does for instance. Almost all of my close friends are married and none are divorced and I don’t have any divorced family members.

Wishyfishy · 16/07/2022 22:39

OooErr · 16/07/2022 22:34

Is your friend The Duchess of Cambridge by any chance...?
Getting together at 16, married by 26 is still very young actually by today's standards! Even if it HAD been 10 years...

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Ha know, she made the joke because of the DoC comments. No one I knew even was making those comments about Kate Middleton really though were they? It was just the press. I think my friend picked up on it so much because she felt like she had been in a relationship but not engaged for a conspicuously long time .. but she was also the first person from our social group to get married so really no one was saying that behind her back at all.

Wishyfishy · 16/07/2022 22:40

@OooErr i meant no of course!!

Hbh17 · 16/07/2022 23:03

Marriage is historically a contract about preserving family status, money, land ownership etc. The concept of "romance" is a relatively new one. I know a number of couples who felt themselves to be happy & committed but - in middle age - and also felt that they needed legal protection because of ill health and/or inheritance planning. Those are perfectly good reasons to get married.

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