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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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Breast enhancement

24 replies

stupidly · 16/07/2022 09:57

I am having surgery soon. Going from B cup to approx a D.

I am excited about it and have told a few close friends.

Everyone has said along the lines of 'oh that's great, as long as you're doing it for you'.

I want my DH to come to my final consultation and help me decide on the size. He wants be to go a little bigger than what I had in mind. And round ones, rather than the more natural shaped implants that I think I prefer. However I'm feeling inclined to go with what he likes best since it is for his sexual pleasure as well as to make me feel more confident.

I suppose AIBU to think it's not just about what I want. Or should I be solely thinking of myself here.

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Kittykat93 · 16/07/2022 10:00

You're not having the surgery for you though are you, it's clearly for your 'd'h 🤣

So yeah you might aswell go for the huge beachball ones why not it's for his sexual pleasure after all 🤷

Loics · 16/07/2022 10:01

If his sexual pleasure has any bearing on your decision, I don't think it's the right time to go ahead with this surgery.

yonce · 16/07/2022 10:03

So he wants you to look like a blow up doll?! 😂

Grim.

Tbh you need to go with your surgeons views too - size and shape, they'll know what your natural muscle / fat can work with, and what will look ridiculous.

NoseyNellie · 16/07/2022 10:03

So everyone you have told has given you the same advice but you still want to take your boyfriend with so he can overrule your choice about your body?

hmm…

Aquamarine1029 · 16/07/2022 10:03

However I'm feeling inclined to go with what he likes best since it is for his sexual pleasure

Having major surgery that's filled with very serious risks should never be for someone else's sexual pleasure. My god.

ChipsNSaladCrean · 16/07/2022 10:04

If you’re having major surgery that isn’t reversible (OK, you can take the implants out but you’ll be left with permanently stretched and scarred natural breasts)…YOU should decide on what you want.

Unless you get to go along to the consultation on his penis enlargement and choose the size?

Laliga518 · 16/07/2022 10:04

I smell a troll 🧐

Mysteryuser · 16/07/2022 10:05

Why will it make you feel more confident?

hurtyb · 16/07/2022 10:05

this has got to be a joke,are you choosing his dick enlargement size?

zaza687 · 16/07/2022 10:05

I had my boobs done a few years ago and wish I went bigger a lot of girls I know wish they went bigger it's called boob greed look it up x

Tothemoonandbackx · 16/07/2022 10:05

Oh God, go with the smaller more natural ones FOR YOU!!!!! It's your body, your choice, if you feel after that you don't like them, and would rather go for a larger more rounded cup, then you can go ahead and do that, but for christ sake, don't do it for any man!!!!!!! You'll have to live with this your whole life, you don't have to live with him though!!!!

Sapphirejane · 16/07/2022 10:05

And if you get divorced and are left with beach balls on your chest, what then?

This is really grim. Will he be expecting a nose job next?

Cas112 · 16/07/2022 10:06

The round boobs are awful and they tend to separate quite a lot, looking like stuck on balloons

birthdaytou · 16/07/2022 10:06

Get the ones you what OP, it’s your body and you’re the one going through major surgery. It’s concerning that he is wanting you to go bigger and rounder and that you’re considering it for his sexual pleasure. Do what’s right for you and only you.

JolieJ · 16/07/2022 10:09

I'm a A/B cup and if my DH made any comments about making them bigger he wouldn't be sticking around. I've never considered getting them done because I like them how they are, but if I ever did it would be for myself only. Luckily my DH loves me as I am anyways

hattie43 · 16/07/2022 10:09

This is not healthy . There is nothing wrong with being a B cup . Your OH sounds like he wants a doll with designer boobs , does he see you as a body or a person .

erikbloodaxe · 16/07/2022 10:10

I was in your position many years ago. Actually believed it was what I wanted. It was what my then H wanted. Looking back he had eroded my self confidence by making me believe what breasts I had weren't good enough. They absolutely were but I couldn't see it.
That is not love.
A loving partner would not want you to do that to yourself for their benefit.
Fast forward 18 years. He is no longer my H and I wish I could get rid of the bloody things.
When you get older they make you look fat and matronly. I hate them.
You are more than your breasts. You are enough just as you are.

BeerPongChampion · 16/07/2022 10:12

Sapphirejane · 16/07/2022 10:05

And if you get divorced and are left with beach balls on your chest, what then?

This is really grim. Will he be expecting a nose job next?

She’ll change them to align with what the next bloke likes in his sex doll, the mans sexual pleasure must be prioritised. Grim.

Coastalcreeksider · 16/07/2022 10:17

I'm naturally 38 GG and zi hate them. They get in the way, I find putting nail varnish on my toes a real struggle, can't cut my toe nails properly so have a podiatrist do them as it's definitely worth the money to keep my feet looking nice.

Someone has already mentioned the "matronly look" and it's true.

Clothes are a nightmare to buy too, big boobs but not so big elsewhere so they often don't look right.

IfvI was a lot younger, I'd definitely consider having them reduced a bit.

CombatBarbie · 16/07/2022 10:17

I had mine done 14yrs ago after breastfeeding my 1st I went from a full C/D to a skin filled B cup. I had the "round ones" but now they have dropped to a more natural shape. Which fitted with my age at the time and now.

I done them for me and me alone, the fact you've said sexual pleasure for your H is worrying and quite frankly gives me the ick. In fact I was single when I had mine done but my now DH loves them but hates he can't touch them as I lost the nerves around my nipple..... Doesn't bother me as I had them done for me.

I'm terms of size, the clinic should have told you to weigh rice in plastic bags and wear them to get an idea of how they would look.

Branleuse · 16/07/2022 10:19

It sounds like neither of you have done enough research.
Round implants still look natural depending on the placement. Teardrop implants run the risk of turning and looking less natural over time and you cant get cleavage with them.
Tell your husband to calm down and youll be deciding for yourself what you want and if he keeps on about it then he wont get to play with them at all 😄in fact id take someone else to the appointment if you think he will try and encourage you to go bigger than you want.
Seriously though, with that, it depends on your relationship. Is he just a bit excited or is he actually pressuring you? What cc implants are you wanting and what placement?
Gravity does make round implants go a bit teardrop shaped anyway, particularly if under the muscle placement, but if you already have breast tissue or have sagging, you might find over the muscle to be fine, and also shorter recovery time.

Branleuse · 16/07/2022 10:21

Cas112 · 16/07/2022 10:06

The round boobs are awful and they tend to separate quite a lot, looking like stuck on balloons

Not true.

FelicityFidget · 16/07/2022 10:24

I think you need to replace your husband, not your boobs.

Grim.

Madamecastafiore · 16/07/2022 10:25

Don't go bigger, you'll hate it. Do it solely for you. Bigger than a D and you'll have to dress differently and the round implants will look really obvious. The surgeon will advise as to your frame too, bigger than a D may not work and he if he's a good surgeon refuse to do it.

I had my boobs filled out after breastfeeding 3 kids, went from a D to an F/G. One surgeon refused to do it as he said will be too big, I'll look matronly or sexy all the time and won't match my frame so I went elsewhere. I'm currently waiting for first surgeon who refused to contact me with a date to remove them and do a lift.

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