I've ended my marriage

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It was abusive and toxic. I feel a great weight has been lifted. I'm 50 and my focus is going to be on my adult children, my career I worked so hard for and my dog, cat and horse and live in my little 16th century cottage.

I'm painting the bathroom over the weekend.

Might be ever so slightly outing but my daughter graduated this week too. Masters in clinical psychology. (Useful 😂) My son is also just as awesome, he has a PHD in chemistry and landed an amazing job in Philadelphia. He's researching how to convert co2 into energy and his goal is to help save the planet

Congratulations! I very nearly divorced but he died 11 days before the nisi was pronounced. I still remember the first night after he left the house (police were involved) and the sense of peace. We started redecorating the week after he left.

Oh and as I've outed myself, fuck it. My animals....this is my best mate Harry. He currently away being trained by the super talented Guido L Leidlemeyer and he sent me this video. That's what did it for me and made me realise what's important. Harry was a few hundred quid write off and I've spent the last 4 years with time, patience and love and now look at him! Also here's my dog 😍

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Congratulations to your amazing children. They must make you very happy.

I asked you for tips about how you HAD got through it. But now I see your husband is still sleeping on the sofa, I realise you are in fact still in the midst of it. I admire your mindset, and see that as my way forward.

Thank you, I am going to visualise my (yet to be bought) cottage, full of sunshine and cats.

@sleepymum50 you can do it!

Yes he's still here but he needs to make arrangements. Me? I'm moving on! Lots of lovely things to focus on for ME!

We have a caravan so might pull it out of storage and send him off to that 😂

This thread is so positive for me! Thank you everyone and I hope it gives @sleepymum50 strength too! Here's my cat and my little cottage 🥰

Nice one - well done op, life is too short to put up shit! I was a similar age when I chucked out my (cheating) ex h. Redecorated the entire house - bloody love it!

I’m jealous. Can I ask if you waited till your
kids were adult? That’s my plan but I’m nearly your age and they are still at school. Would so love to be free

Enjoy!! I felt amazing after I ended my marriage, like a new person.

My kids were already adults when I met my husband. My son is 26 and my daughter is 25. I met my husband when my daughter was 18.

I have no intention of getting into another relationship. I like my own company and I'm going to be a crazy cat/dog/horse lady 😂

My advice is life is short. If you're not happy then do what you need to do to be happy. I'm going to be skint and will have to watch every penny but I don't care. As long as I have a roof over my head and can pay the bills that's ok. I am lucky in that I'm the bread winner anyway so I appreciate I'm lucky in that respect.

you have a lovely home op-just be careful legally though if yooure married he could make a claim for the house

Lovely post op, the daughter, the dog, the cat, the cottage, love it all!

congratulations

do be careful with paint fumes in this weather😄

@whynotwhatknot

Thank you. Already sorted that. I'm an IFA and little cottage is in trust to my kids as I put the bulk of the money in. So that can never be touched 😊

This is exactly the thread I needed to read this afternoon. Thank you for sharing. I'm about or month away from moving into my own little house after a horrible 5 year divorce, where he refused to move out even though I financially paid for everything, mortgage, bills etc. . After all the trauma I find it hard to imagine what peace will be like but you've described it beautifully.

*one month

@inisfree 🥰🥰

Great house, great kids, great pets!! New chapter for you OP.

Good luck to all the other lovely ladies on here who are going through shit cos of men.

Hope this thread is inspiration for you.

brilliant sounds like you got your head screwed on

I'm imagining that gorgeous little cottage that Cate Winslet lived in in The Holiday

Good for you, I'm nearly 50 and am much happier since I left my long marriage