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Being kept talking and can't get away! School gates

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gabi2e · 15/07/2022 10:55

Just that really..
I walk my DD to school then have to head off straight to work for a prompt 9am start. This leaves me with about 10-15 minutes at the most. It's a 10 minute walk to the store where I work.
On the school run I'm always dressed in work uniform and ID lanyard, so it's obvious that I'm heading to work... but I still struggle getting away from other mums who want to stop for a chat.
I usually walk briskly and just said "hi" "bye" kind of things whilst walking, to let them know politely I'm in a hurry and can't stop.
Yesterday one of them kept me talking about basically nothing for 10 minutes, moaning about the weather, her garden and so on... I tried all my usual prompts to get away but she wasn't picking up on them at all. A few of them are similar, especially the mums who don't have to rush off to get to work for a set time straight after school drop off.
Any tips? I struggle with assertiveness and obviously don't want to upset people or some across rude or ignorant in being unable to stop for a chat.
Other working mums have this issue?

OP posts:
FinallyHere · 15/07/2022 13:05

my usual prompts to get away but she wasn't picking up

What works for me is big smile, lovely to see you, so sorry I've in such a rush and crucially, keep walking.

Works every time. Whatever you do, don't stop.

cottagegardenflower · 15/07/2022 13:06

set an alarm on your phone and when it rings say 'must get to work' and leave. alternatively a watch, look at it and say you have to go.

Heroicallyl0st · 15/07/2022 13:12

If they’re not taking hints or they’re carrying on talking to you as you walk away, that’s their issue. It’s not you being rude, it’s them being rude by assuming that you’re free to give them attention.

It’s perfectly fine to put earning a living and acting responsibly (ie turning up on time to work!) above being polite to acquaintances. .

VickyEadieofThigh · 15/07/2022 13:31

I've been doing this for years: "I'm going to have to stop you there - can't stop, I'm runinng late for work/important meeting/etc". You just cut across what they're saying, don't wait for them to pause for breath. Then walk briskly away.

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