Dd14 says that life goes really fast and is a worrier. How to help?

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My dd says that life goes really really fast for her. She is actually concerned and says that she doesnt think that its normal. I dont think this is attention seeking as dd hates attention and does seem like shes worrying about this. Shes worried about getting older as she feels like she missed as much due to corona. Her mental health did get worse after the pandemic and nowadays she seemed like she was doing fine. How do i help?

Can you do slow things? I know that sounds weird. Things like baking or swimming in a lake or walking in the woods. Sit on a beach and stare at the waves or by a fire.

The world goes at her pace. It's just humans who don't.

Meditation and grounding maybe as well.

She sounds like her brain is in panic mode slightly? Simple breathing, meditation and nature walking can help calm the senses.
does she have a lot of activities?

I completely get your DD's point - I have always been the same, anxious & highly strung. As a child I used to think exactly this - how short our time was.

As an adult I've less time for introspection! And have come to terms with it more, though get a shock when I think of how quickly the last 25 years has gone.

I think continuing to listen to her, and letting her share the fears is important. The brevity of life is a universal theme, that humans have struggled with throughout time! You can focus on helping her understand that what matters is quality & enjoying what her life offers - friends, family, activities she enjoys, her achievements

DD (just turned 15) is in treatment for anxiety and panic attacks and one thing her councellor said really stuck with me: When Corona hit we suddenly expected 11-12 year olds to do things they weren't wired for. We expected them to be independent to a point a older teen may be able to be. They not only missed out on lots of age-typical stuff, they missed out on learning to be independent and forgot how to be a young teen.

Her recommendation was to go back to the basics, let them be a bit younger, cut down on expectations just because they did it during lockdown, they may not need to still do it. Give them a bit more help with life.

Does she read books? Those slow things down.