To think I am failing

[Helltotheyes]

So I have beautiful 5 year old daughter who is the brightest, most loving little girl, however, I feel I am failing her, since DS was born 2 years ago I feel he is completely draining me, he is very needy, very demanding, to the point where I don’t have much left to give. I feel as though I am failing as a mum and today was the only day we came home from school and literally I literally couldn’t wait until bed time, I don’t feel like playing, I am completely and utterly exhausted.

Sorry it’s so hard at the moment! It won’t be like this forever, but it’s probably hard to imagine anything being easier.

What support do you have? Do you have a partner, or friends /family who could help with your DS?

I had three children under 5 at one point, and it nearly broke me. They’re all grown up now, but those first few years were not what I was expecting motherhood to be like. Much sympathy to you. You are not failing. You just need some help.

Nooo! You might be depleting yourself but I'm sure you're doing a great job at mumming x

Its really hard and I only have one!

Thank you 💗 maybe just having a bad day x

Everyday is such a challenge with my 2 year old, I never experienced this with my first?

I think a lot of the people who judge and give the perception of being a perfect parent are like that because they have never dealt with a child with challenging behaviour.

My son was like this and my first son got left out a bit, but things do improve as they get older. Two is a difficult age too and I have just been through it! Loads of tantrums that nearly reduced me to tears in public.

It turns out my son couldnt hear and communicate properly due to glue ear which is getting fixed. So I would speak with a HV to rule anything out. Not being able to communicate can cause a lot of issues.

Two year olds are known for being challenging. And if you have more than one child, the two year old will probably be the more challenging one. My son was really hard work at 2, and I was constantly exhausted. I had three kids by then and I just wanted to sleep all the time.

I found that getting them out to the park every day (or anywhere really) made things a bit easier. Mine seemed to need a lot of time running around. It was a pain getting them ready, but once they were out it was better. Would that work for you?

Yes, I do try to get put with him everyday, we walk to school and usually feed the ducks etc, call at my mums, I’m avoiding the toddler groups I just can’t face it, he is at nursery 2 days a week so not too bothered about the social interaction, plus he has DD.

If by DD you mean a developmental disorder, then I can imagine it’s an especially challenging situation for you. It’s great that you’re managing to get out regularly, and that he goes to nursery. Feeding the ducks is always fun!

I avoided toddler groups too: my son has ASD (not diagnosed at that point) and he really couldn’t cope with the noise of other kids. It’s not for everyone.

Sounds like you’re a great mum. Your children are lucky to have you.