This incident happened a few years ago but has just been shoved in my face so I wanted to get some impartial views.
So cast your minds back to Christmas of 2016. I was tasked (as usual) to arrange our family Christmas meal, we are a large family (my mothers side) and it's usually for 15-20 people.
That year we were eating out on Christmas Day, so as you can imagine making sure everyone RSVPs, puts in their pre order, pays a deposit was a bit of faff.
Earlier that year I got married, 3 days before the wedding my aunt split up with her boyfriend, meaning at the last minute I was short 3 people (the boyfriend and his 2 children) I rushed to alter the seating plans and the venue were nice enough to cancel the food for them too - was a bit annoyed tbh but whatever. Then a day before the wedding she got back together with him and asked if he and the kids could still come, I said no as it was a bit too short notice. They then break up 'for good' a day after the wedding, she moved out the whole lot.
So fast forward to Christmas, she is still split from the boyfriend, hadn't seen him in months etc. Due to booking for Christmas Day most restaurants needed bookings far in advance, the total number was 20 that year. 5 days before Christmas I got a message from the same aunt asking if I could add the boyfriend and his kids onto the booking as they were reconciling.
I said no for 2 reasons, firstly it was annoying me this year as so many people were changing their pre orders in the weeks before and this was somewhat the final straw, I had already asked the restaurant a week before her request to add one person on and they were a bit funny about it as it was such a large table it was difficult to work their end, but agreed. So I knew they'd either not be able to add 3 more or be shitty about it, secondly after the stunt pulled on the wedding day I didn't trust that on Christmas Day the boyfriend and family would even show up (although I didn't tell her the last reason)
I told her the restaurant had already struggled to add one so I wasn't going to ask about adding three.
She then called the restaurant and added them on
Fine, if she deals with the aggro that's fine by me.
Nothing was said at the time about this and we all moved on, had a great Christmas.
I was having a minor disagreement with her recently over another issue and mentioned someone being a bully (not her, the person we were disagreeing over) she then snapped back it was rich of me to talk about bullying since I bullied her (now very much an ex) boyfriend Christmas of 2016!!
She then said I refused to add him onto the booking, and all this other stuff.
AIBU to think that not wanting to run around after others changing their minds isn't bullying, or would you feel I was bullying your boyfriend in that situation?