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shuz1980 · 2022-07-14T15:10:53+00:00

My son (6) came out of school today really upset. He lost his little key chain he has on his book bag. He said when he told the teacher she said 'not my problem'. Aibu to be really annoyed with her response to ds?

comealongponds · 14/07/2022 17:42

YABU

it isn’t her problem! Yes it’s a bit blunt if she actually said it exactly like that, but it’s the end of term, it’s hot, she’s probably fed up of kids bringing random stuff to school for no reason and then losing it.

Mybestyear · 14/07/2022 17:46

Overall I think YABU. If she actually said that, it is a little blunt but YABU to be “really annoyed”. My DS came home from school one day upset when he was 8 or so and he said the teacher said “DC, that’s crap” about his work. I asked him”what words did she actually use?” and he replied “DC, that’s not your best work”!!

Better to spend time reinforcing to DS that he is responsible for not losing things he takes to school or else don’t take things in.

PatchworkElmer · 14/07/2022 17:52

I bet it didn’t happen exactly the way he’s told you.

CadburyCrunchy · 14/07/2022 17:53

@shuz1980 YANBU at all about your little boy being upset! He's only 6 and I think the teacher spoke to him harshly tbh... I'd say he's telling the truth as it's not a phrase a small child would make up... Regardless of it not being the teachers problem or not she shouldn't be so dismissive of a small child as that's hurtful and she should know that! She needs to learn some manners, the children probably have better manners than her!

Loveisnotloving · 14/07/2022 18:12

It's not his school bag, his jumper, his pencil case or even his drinks bottle, it's a bloody keyring that was hanging off his bag. Could have broken off anywhere.

Absolutely ridiculous to be so annoyed.

marcopront · 14/07/2022 18:40

easyday · 14/07/2022 17:29

Wow people! 'Not my problem' and 'I'm sorry it may turn up' are just as easy to say.
I couldn't care less she's got 30 hot kids. It's her job.
Teachers are role models. She's now taught the kid that she doesn't care, she has no empathy, that's it's fine to be rude. Gold star!

It isn't her job.
Her job is to teach him.

CaptainCallisto · 14/07/2022 18:44

I'm a TA in a Y1 class. Between coming in this morning and the end of the day, the children in my class had lost: three sunhats (all found eventually), a water bottle (never did find that - child was given water in a beaker instead), numerous pencils/rubbers/glue sticks, a little cuddly narwhal (which the child has been repeatedly asked not to bring in!), a sparkly notebook, a Spiderman action figure, and a book bag (found after the kids had left when we pulled out a drawer unit to get at the plugs). Honestly, it gets rather wearing!

50mg · 14/07/2022 18:46

marcopront · 14/07/2022 18:40

It isn't her job.
Her job is to teach him.

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It is her job to model polite behaviour. I agree it's not her job to find the missing item, but I wouldn't stand for my staff saying "not my problem" to a child.

Saragossa · 14/07/2022 18:48

easyday · 14/07/2022 17:29

Wow people! 'Not my problem' and 'I'm sorry it may turn up' are just as easy to say.
I couldn't care less she's got 30 hot kids. It's her job.
Teachers are role models. She's now taught the kid that she doesn't care, she has no empathy, that's it's fine to be rude. Gold star!

What a ridiculous comment. Do you really think the child is wondering why his teacher isn't a better role model?
She hasn't taught him anything of the sort, except that it's up to him to look after his own possessions.

DariaMorgendorffer · 14/07/2022 18:51

viques · 14/07/2022 16:19

Yes. It’s hot, she has had thirty hot sweaty kids telling her they are hot and sweaty all day, it’s the end of term, she has a million loose ends to tie up before school finishes, she is probably desperate for a cup of tea and a wee and isn’t inclined to start a classroom search for a key chain bearing in mind the chain has probably broken so it could be anywhere in the known world where your child has walked over the past few days. Unless the key chain was carrying the keys to the Tower of London then I don’t see why she should be interested. Maybe she could have said it a little kinder but that possibly depends on how your child phrased what he said to her.

This!

Pumperthepumper · 14/07/2022 18:52

Do you think it is her problem?

LadyMonicaBaddingham · 14/07/2022 18:55

beautifulworldwhereareyou · 14/07/2022 17:29

Well no but she could have said “that’s a shame hopefully it will turn up” - literally doesn’t take any more time.
I always give the “this is why we don’t bring things to school” line.

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Me too. You bring it to school, you prepare to lose it, I'm afraid...

iloveyankeecandle · 14/07/2022 18:55

I think saying not my problem isn't the best choice of words. But as others have said, unless he's been asked he shouldn't take it into school.

alphapie · 14/07/2022 19:00

easyday · 14/07/2022 17:29

Wow people! 'Not my problem' and 'I'm sorry it may turn up' are just as easy to say.
I couldn't care less she's got 30 hot kids. It's her job.
Teachers are role models. She's now taught the kid that she doesn't care, she has no empathy, that's it's fine to be rude. Gold star!

If what was said in the OP is true, the OP could be paraphrasing, or the child most definitely could have been