Really though?

[lilly90x]

So I'm OLD, matched with someone and we got on like a house on fire, so we started arranging meeting. He is based in Yorkshire and I'm based in the Midlands. He wanted me to travel 2 hours up to Manchester. When I suggested that we meet at a half way point, he said there are only little villages and towns in those places, which is equally about 35ish miles for both of us. I meant there are Costas and Starbucks everywhere 🤣 and first meet ups aren't meant to be a day trip to a shopping centre - so he then goes on to say:

Fair enough that’s totally understandable, I’ve actually enjoyed the convo with u, and hope u find what u searching for
Best of luck

I replied back, I hope you find what you are looking for too.

Am I being unreasonable? Not wanting to travel so far on the first date?

He's from Cheadle Hulme, so practically near Manchester. I may have poor Geography, unsure whether it's classed as Yorkshire 🙊

But yes, it was an easy option for him if things didn't go well. I wasn't ready to waste my Diesel, was just so unattractive.

Ah yes that is most definitely not Yorkshire, but I will forgive on this occasion 😆
Good luck OP, I hope you find someone who is willing to travel the earth to meet you. I'm glad you know your own worth, and you've had a lucky escape this time but obviously have good instincts!

Yeah fuck that. A middle point meeting place is fair. He expected you to travel 2 hours whereas he had to make minimal effort. It's already an indication that he thinks his time and preferences are more important.

Why even chat to a guy who lives two hours away and isn't available to date when you are??

@CloseYourEyesAndSee I don't mind distance as long as both parties are willing to put effort in to travelling. I am a very organised person so don't ever bring work home as all, my marking is done. I finish work at 2:50/3:00 most days, so there's ample meeting time so long as we both meet halfway. Weekdays are not an issue for me as I can meet in the evenings, I've done it before with other dates. He just wasn't willing to put in the travel.

Cheadle Hulme is definitely not Yorkshire! It's probably 20-25 mins from the centre of Manc in good traffic. Lazy sod. You dodged a dick with that.

Can I ask what dating app you are using please? I've tried a few but don't recognise that layout and am thinking about trying a new one. I've exhausted all my Hinge options

He definitely did not want to make the effort...half way is reasonable regardless of what is available. Wouldn't waste anymore time on this one!

I wonder if he’s married or seeing someone and that’s why he only wanted to meet in one place on weekdays

Those messages! He sounds like a tosser.

Let him sit on his sofa and wait for all those women to just fall into his lap. Lazy sod.

"As a man I can tell" 😂😂😂

He sounds like an irredemable turd OP. So glad you didn't meet him - travel or no travel.

"I be like get gone mate" "next please"

It's a bit of a dick move to post private messages online but yeah, you dodged a bullet there. Strange way for an adult to speak.

A man who can't even be bothered to meet you halfway on a first date, and expects you to do all the travelling really isn't worth your time. Everyone is trying to impress at that stage, and what he's telling you by his actions is that he's lazy. Urgh, I'd be completely put off.

You were not unreasonable not to go, and definitely dodged a bullet there!