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What can I do about my neighbour?

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:10

Mid terrace. We both town she's my next door but 1 neighbour to the left.

Her child is 18 and apparently loses her keys so much she's not got one now so she uses the back door which locks automatically. She then goes into my neighbours garden via his gate, opens the gate to my garden and then walks over the patio and opens the gate into my right hand neighbours garden, through 2 more gardens down a ginnel and out onto the main road.

I don't care about her using our garden for access as they do have access to bring bins round. My issue is that more often than not she'll leave all the gates wide open and my dogs can escape onto the main road. And it's busy. She couldn't give a shit.

Tonight my dogs got out because all the gates were wide open one went they went different ways. They came back immediately because I've worked on recall but it's not the point!

Can I install a gate that immediately shuts without her touching it? It's pissing me off so much.

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:13

Both own ffs

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IGotItInTheSales · 13/07/2022 00:14

how do you think she would feel if the dogs left dog mess on her route, by her front door etc?

i think that should happen...she needs to be inconvenienced herself

or a padlock on the gate opened only on bin day

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:16

@IGotItInTheSales I think I can lock it but would she need a key that she would lose no doubt

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Bunty55 · 13/07/2022 00:22

Have you spoken to the neighbour about this OP

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:25

@Bunty55 yes I have, she's not interested. She shut the door in my face

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:26

@VeniVidiWeeWee that's great thank you

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PureBlackVoid · 13/07/2022 00:27

This is really annoying I would just keep them locked except for bin day

Bunty55 · 13/07/2022 00:45

I would get a lock on the gate full stop. I would also be tempted to put something on the gate such as a substance that sticks to clothes.

KosherDill · 13/07/2022 00:48

Scree their bins. Lock your gate. Document the dog incident in a tome stamped email to yourself.

Their right of way doesn't allow them to run roughshod over your household.

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:48

@Bunty55 anti climbing paint

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 00:48
Grin
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KosherDill · 13/07/2022 00:52

Also get a web cam out there to record any negligence or vandalism

Redglitter · 13/07/2022 00:55

I'd be putting a lock on the gate & only unlocking it for bin day. If she complains point out your dogs safety is your priority so the gate has to stay locked. Oh & send her a link to a key safe

CelestiaNoctis · 13/07/2022 00:56

Just put a lock on it. Don't allow access. The end.

Bunty55 · 13/07/2022 01:07

Exactly !

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 01:59

Can I do this (lock) if it's in the deeds they have access through our garden? This might be the reason I move tbh

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EvergreenForest · 13/07/2022 02:18

You can absolutely put locks on BUT you have to give neighbour with access a key. My parents have access through garden and share a key with the neighbour

Redglitter · 13/07/2022 02:29

Are they just allowed random access? My friend lives in an end terrace house. She has to give her neighbours access but only to put out & bring in bins, they can't just wander through when it suits them

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 02:31

It specifically says for the bins in the deeds. I will speak to her or try tomorrow, then send a Letter, I'll get DH to send it on headed paper (solicitors) saying a lock will be fitted on x date if you require a key you will be provided with one, if you lose it that's on you and we won't be replacing it.

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Redglitter · 13/07/2022 03:32

If its just for the bins I'd put a lock on it & tell her the gate will be unlocked the night before the bins are collected and locked again once they're uplifted. I wouldn't give her a key, you'll potentially be no better off if her daughter just let's herself through using the key.

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HuffleWoof · 13/07/2022 06:07

@Redglitter that's a very good point thank you

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Greydogs123 · 13/07/2022 06:13

If deeds specifies bins then definitely tell them you’re installing a lock which will be unlocked night before bin day and re-locked next day and tell them exactly why it’s necessary. Their daughter’s incompetence shouldn’t affect you. They can easily install a key safe if she can’t be trusted with a key.

Unexpecteddrivinginstructor · 13/07/2022 06:22

I wouldn't put it on headed notepaper though as that will look like a neighbour dispute which you would then have to declare if you sell.

KosherDill · 13/07/2022 10:17

Greydogs123 · 13/07/2022 06:13

If deeds specifies bins then definitely tell them you’re installing a lock which will be unlocked night before bin day and re-locked next day and tell them exactly why it’s necessary. Their daughter’s incompetence shouldn’t affect you. They can easily install a key safe if she can’t be trusted with a key.

This. It's their problem.

Any chance you can diagram the layout for us?

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