So recently DD had her first bday party, she turned 6 :)
Day before the party, one of her best friends’ Mams sent me a message and asked if I could watch her Daughter the day after the party as she had no childcare. I said Yeah sure, it’ll be a pleasure, we’ll talk and sort out times etc at the party tomorrow….. reply came back, Thank you, see you at the party!
Fast forward to the party and halfway through a 2hr party I got a message off this mam saying “are you sure u can watch DD tomorrow?” So I text back that yes it was fine, asked what time does she need me to have her, that I thought she was coming to my DDs party and hope everything is ok! Then to my surprise I get no message back, but her 5yr old is dropped off at the party and sent in alone to meet one of the other mams, 25mins before the end, just in time for food and party bags, without even a birthday card for DD!
Next thing I know, I get a message off HER mam asking my address to drop child off the next day.
Child comes, still no birthday card, then proceeds to walk into my house and start trying to open my DDs gifts whilst she was still in bed. I asked her not to touch the gifts as DD hasn’t had chance to look at them or open them yet herself. This child then absolutely trashed my house….. walking from room to room, pulling out all sorts, opening stair gates, doors, making a mess and walking to the next room to start again. I literally followed her around tidying up and ask her not to pull everything out, don’t go into closed rooms, and if she can open the stair gate, to make sure it’s closed behind her for DD2s safety. It was like talking to a brick wall….. repeatedly! Even DD1 was asking her not to do stuff, to which this child starts saying nasty things to DD. I even caught her on the baby monitor, DD asked her not to pull all her Lego apart…. Child replied “well if you don’t let me, then you’re not coming to my house any more and you’re not my friend!” 😱 I went up and asked her nicely not to destroy the Lego and told her we’re all friends and that we don’t say nasty things to our friends. it didn’t stop, I caught her saying a lot more nasty things to DD and again reinforced that it wasn’t nice!
after the child left, my DD was upset and said she hadn’t liked having her here and that she’d been nasty to her! So I said don’t worry, she doesn’t have to come back! DD even pointed out “She didn’t even get me a birthday card!” Broke my heart for such a young child to notice this!
never once got a message to say thank you for having child!
back at school the children seemed to be ok and back to being friends, so a couple of weeks later, the lady got in touch and asked me to take her child to a party as she was out of town and her childcare was unable to take child to the party, so again, I said yes, not a problem, I’ll pick up and drop off.
again, not a single thank you for my troubles!
Saw the lady at the school gates this morning and she couldn’t even smile or say hello despite OBVIOUSLY seeing me!
AIBU to think she’s just totally taking the mick? Who sends a child to a party without even an empty card? Then ignores it to ask if you can babysit even when you’ve clearly mentioned it again? Then doesn’t even thank you for looking after her? Then asks again for a favour and still no thank you? obviously I dont want to cause arguments when we still have to get by for at least the next 6 years, but am I justified in being upset and angry about it?
I just feel like it’s blatant ignorance!
needless to say, I won’t be doing any more favours though!