DH ran over a DEAD deer. AIBU to think he should have avoided it!

[BoilingHotWoman]

He was driving home on the motorway tonight and there was a dead deer in the middle lane. He said there were cars on the hard shoulder so he thought there had been an accident and he was looking at them not the road! Also said he didn’t see it as the car in front was 10 metres away and ran over it too.

His car is a low car, bit hanging down underneath the car at front, blood and guts all underneath it. and god knows what damage underneath.

He will now have to take my car for the rest of the week so I won’t have one, as no time for his to be taken to the garage until the weekend, and we’ll get a massive bill probably which we don’t need right now as going on a long awaited holiday in 2 weeks and need spending money!

AIBU to think this was avoidable?!!

If I’d done it, he would have gone mad and insisted I should have seen it.

Also feel terrible for the poor deer!

What has being a vegetarian to do with running over a dead dear which, if suddenly avoided could have caused another accident?

My insurance tells you to hit the live (or dead) animal instead of swerving. Much safer for all involved. (Well except the live animal that is probably now dead). But I guess they don’t have to pay out to Bambi.

Can he not drop the children off at school and get the shopping on the way home?

Get a Karcher.

He might have been travelling too close to the car in front by the sound of it but better that than swerving at 60mph+.

I was always told, from droning lessons onwards, that you should never swerve to avoid an animal. And they meant a live one. So swerving to avoid a dead one would risk an major accident for no good outcome at all.

So yes, at motorway speed with cars presumably in the other lanes, it would be madness to try to avoid a dead deer that he only saw a split second before. Had he done so you might well have had a lot more to worry about than some blood and guts from an already dead creature.

Droning lessons? 😂

Is his ncb protected or not? If it is, he’ll not lose anything for claiming. Might end up writing the car off (they did for mine after hitting a deer) which was annoying!

DH wrote our car off a few weeks ago after hitting a live deer - I'm assuming it's a fault claim as deer don't pay any premiums...there didn't look to be much damage at all but turned out that radiator was leaking, presumably the sub frame was damaged.

They also want to put his insurance up now too, of course.

We're also rural, DH commutes about 12 miles away and I WFH. Luckily my DF was able to lend us a car till the money came through.

To those suggesting, just hire a car....2 days of a fiesta was over £500!

The least your DH could do is pick up some shopping if he's got your car....

There’s a big difference between hitting a standing deer and running over a carcass which had already been run over by at least one vehicle. Are you sure there’s any damage at all?

So you wanted him to slam the brakes on and swere at high speed? The end result would probably mean you wouldn't be here right now asking the question as you would be either seriously injured or dead as the car qouldtof spun out and quite likely overturned many times and posibbly injuring other people

’I’m a vegetarian’ was the op’s response to a poster saying:

Your AIBU should be that you don't have fresh venison steak in the house

You're being ridiculous. He made the best decision he could at the time. He may have very well prevented a serious accident if he had tried to avoid the deer. The deer was dead, it didn't mind being hit again.

Please, gain a little perspective. Your partner is safe and well, that's all that matters.

If he hadn't been rubbernecking and had left a decent gap between him and the car in front then there is a chance he wouldn't be in this situation.