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Work uniform

14 replies

PepperZaddy · 12/07/2022 18:45

I'm trying to be vague, my manager has a penchant for the dramatic and I honestly cba.

This may sound pathetic, but at our work place, as long as the given tops were worn, they didn't care what the trousers were. I had a cesarean last year with twins, the scar is big because my twins were big, and I dont know if its just me but whenever anything touches my scar, it feels awful. Like weird numb nerve pain up my belly and round the sides, even down my legs.

Recently they gave decided that we need to wear cargo builders trousers, that they have given us. (We are not builders nor anywhere near a site). The trousers are the most uncomfortable things i have ever had the task of putting round my arse. They ride up, cut you in half and dig into every crevice unknown to man, and when you stand up, they're baggy all they way round until they hit your thighs. So you're holding them up most of the time, and writhing around in agony the rest of it. I fucking hate them. I'm still wearing maternity wear and pants over my belly so it's somewhat protected from anything touching it.

It's now got to a point my manager has decided to start suprise visits early hours of the morning (I work at night) to check the trousers and delivering threats about upper management etc.

I won't wear them. I'm not spending 8hrs in pain because it's 'policy'. I've explained why I won't wear them, they don't care. I've had another email today, and I am at a point with my work where I'm just done. The trousers are the forefront of my current issues but there's just so much bollocks surrounding it. I cannot wait to leave.

Am I pathetic? Im on the fence. Like yeah just wear them, its no biggie, they're trousers. But also, why the f*ck should i? The trousers i wear are just plain black normal trousers. But no, these are not allowed. It feels so incredibly stupid and micromanaged that i don’t want to give in. If the trousers were of no issue I wouldn't be making it into one.

OP posts:
Sweetpea1532 · 12/07/2022 19:07

@PepperZaddy
Can you get some sort of medical waver because of your nerve pain?
I have a very unusual body type and trousers for the mainstream in no way, shape or form fit my tiny waist, huge butt and gigantic thighs.( marching band uniform trousers in high school circa 1970 come to mind!)

I also had a cesarean and the numbness and pain took years to go away...., although it sounds like you could actually have some nerve damage if you're experiencing nerve pain on your sides and down your legs. I would imagine the ill-fitting trousers will just exacerbate the problem!
I'm sorry you are experiencing thisFlowers

Kowloondairy · 12/07/2022 19:08

Get a note from your doctor or consultant, they have to make adjustments for your health

balalake · 12/07/2022 19:21

If they had been required from day one when you joined, fair enough to wear them. Not a sudden change of policy and as noted, you have a medical reason not to wear them.

Hunderland · 12/07/2022 19:21

I've had four c-sections and have never had the sort of reaction you describe - I think you should go and see your Dr.

Aksbdt · 12/07/2022 19:32

I know this misses the point but have you been back about this to your doctor? That’s not ok and I’d be pushing for them to check what’s going on

chiffchaffchiff · 12/07/2022 19:34

I'd explain this all to your doctor and ask for a medical exemption. HR would quickly bow out of any fight your manager tries to start. Wearing different trousers is a reasonable adjustment as they have no bearing on your ability to do your job.

coffeecupsandfairylights · 12/07/2022 19:36

Surely that level of pain from a C-section scar is abnormal and requires investigation?

YANBU not to wear them if it hurts, but you do need to go to your GP and tell them you're still in pain.

PepperZaddy · 12/07/2022 19:53

I genuinely thought this was normal for a csec 🥴 well shit, doctors it is

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BigFatLiar · 12/07/2022 19:56

PepperZaddy · 12/07/2022 19:53

I genuinely thought this was normal for a csec 🥴 well shit, doctors it is

Pain shouldn't be seen as normal.

Cotherstone · 12/07/2022 20:01

Definitely not normal this long after a c section, so time for a trip to the GP!

Hankunamatata · 12/07/2022 20:04

If your top hangs over trouser could you get an elastic waistband sewn on like maternity trousers?

Frequency · 12/07/2022 20:06

As a compromise while you're waiting to be sorted with GP etc could you wear some similar maternity trousers?

midairchallenger · 12/07/2022 20:06

Sometimes people do end up with permanent nerve damage after abdo surgery. I'm not sure there's anything that can be done about it?

QuestionableMouse · 12/07/2022 20:09

NBU!

This is why I hate uniforms. Too prescriptive and there's no way one type of trousers can fit all body types.

I'm allergic to wool and my uniform trousers have wool in them. (For fast food - why? 😭) I have a note from my GP so I can wear non uniform trousers.

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