To wonder if I'm the only mother of teenagers who are angelic one day and awful the next?

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My 17 year old dd was reasonably civil last night and we had a nice chat. This morning it's as though we've had a row and for no apparent reason she is grumpy and can barely do more than grunt at me. It happens quite a lot and I am worn out with it. Are anyone else's teenagers the same??

nope all teenagers are 3 and 30 they just vary by the proportion of time they spend curled up with teddies watching cartoons and sniggering at fart jokes vs. the amount of time they spend worrying about the future, their career, whether they'll ever find love or afford a house. They can switch between these two modes with lightening speed

Yes

Ds was always very easy going and a happy child

Now I never know which ds he will be. And he knows everything about everything. When he is happy he is adorable and funny when moody/argumentative well he isn’t so adorable and funny 😖

Oh God, thank you for this thread.

I have a 17 year old - knows everything, is very very woke about EVERYTHING, rude to me and DH half the time, interspersed with lovely, bright loving girl.

DD 2 is 16 and I swear I CANNOT DO THE CONSTANT NEGATIVITY. She hates how she looks, her personality, her part time job, her lack of interests, her indecisiveness for the future, packing for fucking holiday, food she chooses at the supermarket then decides she doesn’t want FUCKING EVERYTHING.

words of advice, please. I would prefer them at 6 weeks and 14 months with simultaneous colic and separation anxiety!

I’ve only got a 13 and 12 year old so I’m only just at the beginning … I recognise that description perfectly

If they are angelic at all then you are on a winner !

Absolutely OP! I just can’t process DD13’s behaviour sometimes. She can be fine, connecting with me, confiding her problems then the next minute biting my head off for no reason. She’s not been officially diagnosed but we’re convinced she’s high functioning autistic & may also have ADHD so that could explain the mood swings but I think a lot of it is raging hormones.

Thanks for your replies. It's good to know its not just me. It's so tiring wondering if Jekyll or Hyde is going to walk through the door at any moment

Absolutely!

This.

One of the best days of my life was when it dawned on me that my son was no longer in the arsehole teenager stage
i actually really love his company now and look forward to chatting to him when I get in from work and if you said that to me 3 years ago I’d have choked

Is that not just the deal of being a teenager 🤔???

sounds like my house, exactly the same! Twin girls, 16 :.. driving me nuts
give me two tiny babies needing night feeds over this pair of half grown humans any day… exhausting!
(I do love them… well most of the time 😂!)