Anyone else wish Mumsnet had been around in the 90s?

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I read threads on the relationship board and see women in their 20s allowing their partners to treat them like absolute shit.

That was me in 1997. But it took until 2014 and being in my 40s for me to understand that I could leave him and it would be ok. And of course mumsnet helped me see it.

I just think, if I’d had Mumsnet to talk to then, I would have actually had a different life.

Another reason I’d have liked to have it then: FWR. I always called myself a feminist but I had literally nobody to talk to about it and knew next to nothing. I’m so much better informed now.

Bloody love mumsnet, me.

Absolutely. I married an abuser and would have loved the wisdom of others. Luckily I found the courage to get out after just 18months. But it’s only 30yrs later, reading the experiences and wisdom from posters that has made me understand many situations that I couldn’t make sense of at that time. I’ve also recently read Lundy Bancroft’s ‘Why does he do that’ from recommendations here.
Also agree that it’s made me much more aware of feminist issues. I started work in a male environment in the 80’s and had been conditioned to accept a lot of bad treatment under the guise of banter.
Oh and I did my Christmas shopping over the past two years by fantastic suggestions on the Christmas board!

I agree so so much. I think it would have saved my health and self esteem which we're both damaged because I had no one to talk to about my situation many years ago.

Yes. I'm lucky I had someone tell me it was OK to ltb, even though he had drummed it into me that we should not be one of those couples that made no effort at marriage. It still took me 5 more years of a 10 year marriage to get out.

Absolutely. The collective wisdom here is invaluable and I so wish it existed when I was young.