Is this too much ?

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Hi sorry this is my first post so I am probably doing it wrong I apologise for any mistakes.

Me and my husband can’t agree on this and everyone I know has been equally split so I wondered what you think as I want to do the best for my D. The dilema is I believe D does too much extra circular ( I know it’s a very trivial issue sorry !) but my husband doesn’t. We don’t force anything and all are done on her own accord. This is a week for her

Monday: 2 hour swimming before school, Pe at school, swim squad after school then club running

Tuesday: cross country club at lunch, baking club after school, club hockey after

Wednesday: Pe at school, netball club at lunch then athletics club after school

Thursday: 2 hour swimming before school, piano lesson after school then out of school running club

Friday: netball after school and sailing club later

Saturday: 2 hour swim session, athletics club and tennis lesson

Sunday: normally a cycle ride with my husband

I should add that on weekends it depends if she has relevant competitions or matches if she does her clubs on those days.

How old is she? That does sound like a lot - but maybe she has only a short journey to school which might mean she can do a bit more than those who have a long bus ride etc. Does she manage to keep on top of homework ok?

That is a LOT - how old is she?

Does she genuinely enjoy it all? Is she tired a lot? Is there any possibility she's worried she can't give any of it up or admit she doesn't like some of it?

If this is real then yes, that is far too much.

Thank you for you replies and sorry if this is not how I should reply but she is 10. Yes she manages to do her homework and is doing very well academically, I think it helps as you say we do live a 5 min walk from school. I do think she genuinely enjoys it, as we have tried suggesting she stopped some or scaled back but she got very upset. She has never been a child to sit still she always has to be doing something, I don’t think she has ever watched a film in one go she just never sits still or holds her attention for long enough unless she is doing something that requires her to use her brain like school, at home she will either bake or cook, play with the dog, or do puzzles and jigsaws.
im just terrified she will burn out and it will effect her mental health.

I think this depends. Her age matters. Does she have time to do all that plus get her homework done etc? She must have quite a short travel to school and not much homework to fit all that in.

My dd, 13, couldn't do it cos she has an hour to school and back, an hour homework, and still needs at least ten hours sleep a night.

But,if she's doing this of her own volition, is getting enough sleep and is doing well and is happy, so this is in lieu of spending time on her phone, then I think it's awesome.

It's a lot, too much imo.

Sorry I should add we don’t add any pressure at all, I just want her to be happy. For example her sister doesn’t do any extra circular other than one hour of swimming after school once a week. The rest of the time she on the other hand will watch tv all day !

Ah, 10. Then, yes, absolutely fine. You go girl.

Pack as much sport in as poss until they start secondary and phones and homework and travel begin!

Way too much.

Kids need time to laze about doing nothing or just amuse themselves without everything being competitive all the time...

Before I had my daughter I would agree with you but she genuinely doesn’t like not doing anything the summer holidays are a nightmare ! When she has a rare free Sunday off anything she will be dragging my husband to go for a bike ride or if she comes back and has no homework will ask to help make dinner or make it for us .

What time is she up in the morning and what time is she in bed.

I wouldn't be bothered about the lunchtime stuff, but I'd worry that she's not getting enough rest or free time

Any chance she has ADHD/ADD?

I know a fair few girls that a did a lot of sport etc and coped well and then later on found out they were ND.

Thank you all I really appreciate all your opinions and advice. To answer some questions she goes to sleep at 8:00 on Sunday and Wednesdays and wakes up the next morning at 5:00 am but the other days she goes to bed at 9:00 and wakes up at 7:00.

i don’t think she has ADHD but she has recently been diagnosed with autism

My son is 10 and we are exactly the same - football Monday, Tuesday along with swimming Tuesday, cricket Wednesday, football Thursday and cricket Friday. Football matches Saturday and Sunday mornings. He does extra clubs during school time too. He's a very active child and would struggle to stay at home and chill!

‘Too much’ really depends on how it’s affecting her. If she’s enjoying it and wants to do it, has time to do her homework, and has some friends then I don’t see why you’d make her stop. She will probably naturally calm down with it all in a few years if she’s anything like I was.

I was doing swimming training 5 times a week at that age because I loved it and wanted to do it, my parents didn’t ever make me do it. Same with drama club and orchestra and various other things. But I soon hit puberty and started wanting to hang out with friends (and meet boys) instead of doing after-school clubs!

Swimming is all time consuming, I guess anything is but my experience is swimming. I used to be up at 5 to swim, my parents drive me around the country for galas. I loved it. Was never quite good enough though.

I do it now for my kids and horses.

She's the complete opposite of my kids!!