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Lordhavemercy · 11/07/2022 21:12

So about 15 of us on a what's app group
One of us had a birthday party inviting all on what's app group weeks b4 our actual birthday which I attended (not all attended)
On the day of actual birthday, I sent a msg on our group chat wising her happy birthday
No reply from her or anyone else.
AIBU to feel I will not like to speak/chat with them like I use to

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bbqhulahoop · 11/07/2022 21:17

Eh? Was it your birthday that was ignored?

Lordhavemercy · 11/07/2022 21:19

No, but it thought it impolite for the person in question not to reply acknowledging the greeting and also for the others to just ignore the msg

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tuscanleather · 11/07/2022 21:21

Your username is how I feel about this thread.

bbqhulahoop · 11/07/2022 21:24

tuscanleather · 11/07/2022 21:21

Your username is how I feel about this thread.

😂 same

Wickywickyyow · 11/07/2022 21:25

Was your message as beautifully written as your OP?

Frangipanipie · 11/07/2022 21:30

I think you are over thinking it, life is busy and not everyone has the time to reply to WhatsApp messages. I wouldn’t say I’m overly popular but today between three WhatsApp groups I received 40 messages. I haven’t responded to most, and if it was one like yours I’m afraid I wouldn’t either. Try not to read into it.

girlmom21 · 11/07/2022 21:31

How often is the group chat used? Why didn't you just wish your friend a happy birthday privately?

FlissyPaps · 11/07/2022 21:33

Don’t overthink shit like this OP. It’s so trivial.

For all you know the other participants could have wished the birthday girl/boy separately or in person, or sent a card.

It’s none of your business what others choose to message.

Bellyups · 11/07/2022 21:33

Relax op

ThreeLittleDots · 11/07/2022 21:40

This doesn't matter, honestly x

Maybebabyno2 · 11/07/2022 22:06

The only reason you message a group chat to say happy birthday is to remind the others of the birthday. Maybe they had already wished her a happy birthday privately.

GoodVibesHere · 11/07/2022 22:11

Pardon?

Sillystripytail · 11/07/2022 22:20

It's rude the the birthday person didn't say thank you. It takes 2 seconds, no one is that busy. The rest of them don't need to reply, they probably said it on a private chat so it'd be weird to say it twice.

Lordhavemercy · 13/07/2022 14:25

@Sillystripytail is exactly my thought. I consider it rude that she didn't reply 🤷🏽‍♀️

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10HailMarys · 13/07/2022 14:27

Christ, you must be bloody hard work if this is the sort of thing that offends you

Testina · 13/07/2022 14:35

Why would you expect anyone else in the group to reply to you wishing one of them a happy birthday?

Why would you not have messaged the birthday person directly?

Geneticsbunny · 13/07/2022 14:49

Don't do things if the only reason that you are doing them is to receive validation that you are a "good/nice" person. That totally defeats the object and makes it about you instead of the person whose birthday it was.
If you honestly just wanted to wish this person a happy birthday for their benefit, you wouldn't have done it in a public group and then got upset when noone replied.

Testina · 13/07/2022 15:16

Was this group created to organise the party?
In which case, no-one is going to spam 14 people replying to your message only meant for 1. And it’s easy for that 1 to miss a message, especially in an old group.

If it’s not a one off group, has other conversation continued and your birthday wishes just got buried in there?

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